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The Art of Reframing - Back by popular demand!

The Art of Reframing - Back by popular demand!

Hey Forums Friends,

In my recovery, I've often wondered how to better help myself with negative talk. You know? All those voices that tell you that everything will go wrong. All those voices that tell you that you are wrong? Those voices that are the loudest in the evenings?

Well one skill I've learnt and practised and found effective is:

REFRAMING

Reframing is about looking at an issue in a different and more constructive way.

First, we must consider our own perspective. What exactly IS our perspective?

Then, we consider an alternative, more constructive meaning/interpretation.

By doing this, it helps us connect the dots of our story and allows us to look at the issue from a new, more useful perspective.

Example 1: "I never do anything right!"

Reframe: "I feel I never do anything right, but this isn't necessarily true"

Example 2: "All the people hate me."

Reframe: "I think people hate me but it doesn't mean everyone."

Example 3: "My family are so irritating. I can't stand them."

Reframe: "My family is under a lot of stress right now. I know it must be hard for them."

Please add negative thoughts you've come across and the reframe that can be consider. OR, if you are stuck, let the community help you come up with something. Just let us know the thought. No need to name names. You can generalise your comment.

Tagging those who may be interested @Rockdog @Healandlove @Shiki @Shaz51 @EternalFlower @RoseGeranium @Glisten @Birdofparadise8 @Dimity @NatureLover @Clawde @Captain24

Sorry, not sure who else to tag. Please tag anyone who may be interested.

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@Abner , @Bill16 , @Jacques , @Adge

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What is the art of reframing @NatureLover?. What needs can it help us get met? Can it help with chronic loneliness?

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amazing reframing @Dimity

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@tyme

@Abner message above

@Blackbird11 , @Melbcoffeesnob ,

@Mother1

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@Abner I’m so glad you asked these questions. @NatureLover

Researched the questions and the information really helped me.

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@Abner ,

For me, I think reframing helped me with chronic loneliness and the hurt that comes with it.

I found that reframing helped me understand things from a different perspective that would be helpful for me. I may not have been able to prove that the alternative perspective was true about someone else, but it helped me feel better to know that there is more one perspective to things.

Thought: That person hates me that's why they haven't called me

Reframe: That person is busy at the moment. They might call back later.

By reframing, it can balance out potential self-criticism and self-hatred. However, of course everything needs balance. It can also be detrimental if someone always considers the alternative perspective and never really accepts self-reflection.

I hope I'm making sense.

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thought -

my friendship is over with x and i'll never get it back

reframing

there is tension in the relationship which might be useful to work through and help us learn about each other. if not, i tried my best.

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Hi @tyme

Hope you are well. That sounds like a good technique

‘ My dreams will never come true’


‘ I feel like my dreams will never come true, but that might not be the case’

‘ she doesn’t have feelings for me’

’ there is evidence to suggest she may have feelings for me’

’Nothing will work out’

’ nothing will work out’

’ I feel nothing will work out, but if I work on myself then they might

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@Abner wrote:

What is the art of reframing @NatureLover?. What needs can it help us get met? Can it help with chronic loneliness?


Hi @Abner , I see @tyme has answered your question...

My gut feeling was that it can help with loneliness, but I wasn't sure how to answer. Thanks, @tyme ! 🙂

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Thanks everyone, I do feel that with my mental health issues it's going to be very difficult to form relationships with people, I don't have difficulty forming friendships because I'm quite likeable, but people usually don't understand people with schizophrenia, and they're definitely challenged in trying to understand people who've also got complex mental health issues, particularly when those issues are due to the type of defamation I've been put through.

The woman I'm in love with is a good person, and she has feelings for me, she's just daunted by the issues. Over time she'll see the good in me.

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