Oscillation between two mind sets

Yes, I can really understand that @creative_writer 🌺💜

trauma does create a whole new brain space that otherwise a person wouldn’t need to have, and I agree that this then influences emotional maturity alongside it.
Indeed working or learning in a space where there’s interactions with people whose life trajectories have been affected in some way can for sure expose a person to developing maturity 💜🌺

@creative_writer I heard a quote (wow I'm just chugging along on the quotes train tonight hey, haha) that said, "It is impossible to recover from trauma whilst still in the environment that caused said trauma". So you're spot on, progress is next to impossible if we're not in a safe, trusting relationship with our therapist. I'm really glad you left that therapist, but also sorry that you are still having to put effort towards recovering from how it impacted you.

I'm about to log off, so I will say goodnight to you both, @Former-Member

Sending some squishy huggles, see you two cool cats tomozzle if you're about 😊💜

Goodnight @Jynx , catch you tomorrow 🙂🌺

@creative_writer oh for sure, words have power! One of the Four Agreements is 'Be impeccable with your word' for a good reason. It also means we can use them to empower ourselves as well. I remember aaaages ago forcing myself to look at myself in the mirror and tell myself 'I love you' out loud. It was so incredibly uncomfortable but it definitely did something (like... not a magic instant fix or anything like that, but it was progress and it did help).

That's awesome about the possible ADHD diagnosis - I mean yeah if the meds would be too risky it may not be worth the cost of an 'official' diagnosis, but what matters most is how it can affect your narrative. For me, it meant I was able to stop demeaning myself as weak or lazy, and instead just go 'lol it's ok my brain just a bit funky' 😅

I hope it paves a similar path for you, where you can approach things differently, seek out resources that are actually oriented to ADHD, stuff like that. Or maybe you were doing so already! In any case, I hope it's the start of a new chapter for ya 😉

Wait isn't saffron like...wildly expensive? My white ass has only ever had it in rice and only as a kid on the rare occasion my parents took us out for Indian food 😂 What's it like in tea?

Hey there @creative_writer 🌺🙂 yes - that makes sense; having ones people can give a strong sense of well-being and connection 🙂

im so pleased you feel that, being here on the forums 💜☺️

I really enjoy chatting with you and have to say your insights make me think - which is a really good thing and something I appreciate 👌🏻😊

Doing ok thank you kindly - I hope you’re doing alright this evening 🌺💜🙂

@creative_writer yeah 100%, goes such a long way to building habits of self-compassion.

I'm glad you've got a cautious psych who will try to ensure that it will not push you over the edge. Better than someone who just throws medications at you and expects things to just resolve on their own. I hope you have a lucrative ADHD journey 😊

Oh wow, I've been sleeping on saffron then! Might have to go scoop some up and give it a whirl!

Yes @creative_writer maxing out brainpower is like running up the down escalator all day, trying to get to the top - very tiring! However I’m really glad to hear it went ok 🙂🌺

yep, I’ve been laying under a nice soft blanket watching some tv to wind down a bit 💜🙂

I hope you’re doing ok and the evening is going gently for you 🌺💜