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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Sometimes I feel like I’m on top of things and don’t feel like my trauma defines me and I don’t feel so ashamed and scared. Other times I want to hide from the world and feel like a **** (I’m not going to say the word here since I don’t want to trigger anyone) 😭, I feel so ashamed that I don’t want people to know
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Gina2Contributor
Hi @creative_writer,
I totally understand where you are coming from and just remember that this is completely normal.
Having good days and bad days are normal and it's okay to have days where you are struggling.
Don't feel ashamed, feeling these things are completely normal.
I hope things get better,
Gina2
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
@creative_writer we have not interacted much on here but what I have seen over some time now is a very capable, astute and bright person who is not just aware of their feelings but takes positive steps to improve themselves all around. There are going to be those days when it is a struggle, whether we are dealing with a MI or not everyone has them ....but they seemed to be amplified when we have other things going on. Keep doing what you are doing @creative_writer , keep putting one foot in front of the other and taking those giant leaps when you come. It may be a cliche but life is a marathon, not a sprint, and you are doing the best you can to keep moving forward. 💕
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Not great here either @creative_writer but more physical pain than emotional (although one does intersect with the other at times). ...but this is not about me Hon. It is really hard when you do not feel safe. Please look after yourself. I have to head to bed.💕
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
One can often mask the other @creative_writer when we are struggling - be kind to yourself Hon ❤️ I hope today is a better day for you.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Today hasn't been great @creative_writer I was really glad to get home to have some help with the pain. Heading to bed soon too - the emotional toll pain takes is so underestimated 😢
It is really hard when our supports make us feel worse. Remember though you have a choice on what you deal with and when ...maybe worth a conversation with your pdoc to let him know how you felt.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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