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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Sometimes I feel like I’m on top of things and don’t feel like my trauma defines me and I don’t feel so ashamed and scared. Other times I want to hide from the world and feel like a **** (I’m not going to say the word here since I don’t want to trigger anyone) 😭, I feel so ashamed that I don’t want people to know
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
@creative_writer We don't need to talk through things in deeper details to be able to get through things. The biggest turning point for me was actually the day that we (my team) decided that looking back was so re-traumatising that it had to stop - and recovery then really began. I won't say it was an easy road but having that weight off my shoulders and looking forward instead of constantly back was a life saver. Of course that does not mean that the traumas do not rear their heads sometimes, nor are there days that are incredibly difficult, but finding that path forward continues.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Mistakes are just opportunities to learn @creative_writer ❤️ So not stupid, just in a different headspace at the time.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
It's a process @creative_writer To learn anything takes time and practice - and that is just the same for physical tasks as it is for emotional ones - and of course we can never be perfect at any of it so there will be stumbles and falls. The biggest learning is then to get back up, find the path again and continue on (and sometimes that means we are at a different point on that path and have to redo some of it).
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
I am heading to bed @creative_writer Please know you are enough and I very much value you ❤️
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Those times off to think more are hard @creative_writer I will be around in the holidays so please tag me when you need Hon - more than happy to be here for you ❤️
We don't finish until Friday - and I have quite a bit to do this week - but then I can have a break also. I need to start getting the kids to take things home so I can also start packing things to move. I haven't had to move classes for a couple of years so it will be a lot to do. I have already started bringing things home to store to make the move a little easier. As I cannot lift much, it has been a lot of small boxes - and the kids have helped pack everything into the car ❤️
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