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~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Hey forums fam. Today, as many of you probably know, is R U Okay Day. I’ve been here long enough to know that this day can actually be kinda triggering for those living with complex mental health. Because a lot of the time, we aren’t really okay, and being asked that question can feel like a bit of a slap in the face.

I just want to take a moment to acknowledge that, acknowledge that having only one day a year where people might think to check up on us, or to have someone we’re not close to ask us that question when they probably don’t want to know the real answer, can feel really lousy.

So I won’t ask you.

But I do know that all of us here are surviving. The amount of courage, resilience, tenacity, and fortitude that I witness in all of you is truly inspiring to me. And the ways I see this community band together to look after one another is so incredible and so meaningful – enough so that I reckon this community is the number one reason I’ve stuck around for the last four years. You’re all absolutely amazing!

So feel free to use this post as an opportunity to talk about your own experiences of R U Okay Day, and I would also love if we can all share some of our little wins, so we can remind ourselves that even if we’re not okay, we still have things we can celebrate together.

For me, my recent little win is that I paid my car rego on time. My ADHD brain is an expert in forgetting things and so actually remembering to do something important feels like a victory for me. Yay! I’m an adult!!

What about you forums fam, any little wins of late?

@Shaz51 @Dimity @Bunniekins @Jacques @TAB @wordman @Former-Member @Zoe7 @NatureLover @Oaktree @Meggles @Eve7 @pinklollipop15 @MDT @Glisten @Boppa @whatsaname @Snowie @creative_writer @Bow @Captain24 @Owlunar @Fluttershy1 @justanotherguy

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

@Kyle1 that's incredible to hear. And a victory is still a victory even if we don't have the energy to celebrate it. I imagine after some rest, perhaps it will settle in more solidly. What an amazing thing to have accomplished, big kudos to you 💜

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

@Jynx, ADHD would make things harder for sure, but you’ve got this💗. I’ve been doing well emotionally, but still flu-ey. I managed to get through a day of uni. I’ve only been doing uni from home this week

@Kyle1, you are strong and amazing ♥️

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🫂🫂💛 @creative_writer

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🙏🕊 @Jynx

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

@Jynx I have my son1 home

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

@Jynx @Kyle1 @Shaz51 @Jacques @NatureLover @tyme I do have a win after all... I'm eligible to give blood despite my med and am booked in for next week

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

My little wins @Jynx

I had a week off Uni so I went to the library to borrow some books. I’ve just finished reading Spare.

Ive walked every day this week.

Set goals for spring cleaning and so far so good.

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Nice. A very noble gesture @Dimity

When my son was born he needed 2 transfusions...

I applaud you! 👏

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Thanks for tagging me @hanamihanami - I reckon an RUOK day is a bit weird - after all - we who are on the other side of the RUOK question might need a lifetime of other people's awareness and I am pretty sure that won't happen.

Chronic pain is a tough issue and yes - I get it - people sometime ask if I am alright. Alright! I have pain and I can hardly stand it when someone says "Poor thing" because I am not - I say - "Please don't say that - I am not sorry for myself" -

And I am not - there are worse things - and I also have courage, resilience, fortitude and a satirical sense of humour - so yes - these things are great - I don't look at life through rose-colored glasses - if anything - I am a bit of a pessimist - and to me - life is full of wonderful surprises.

At my age the glass is half-empty - of course - it has to be - and I am sure I will make the best use of what remains. My daughter suggested I should be in an old age home - why on earth would I want that? - I felt - still feel - insulted. My life is too interesting to give up on myself and retired into a restricted protocol of what people think I SHOULD be doing.

Am I OK - not always - but I can last it out - there is always something around the corner - whatever it might be.

But for people who are not OK - that is a different story - and one day of public awareness a year - what a load of (enter any appropriate word you choose) - people need more than the public having a sense of awareness - I do my best here and if I am not - I am probably dealing with something or other.

And I do hate to be ordered to have a nice day or a wonderful evening - I just say all the best - the best of what is up to other people.

But I do care - and I try to inspire other people -

It's not easy though - to be OK - I find it easier to accept than most - it's taken a long time and a lot of experience though.

All the best

Owlunar

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Hi @Jynx , thanks for the heads-up. I used to cringe at OK day, I felt awful for many reasons but there was no way I could ever explain to somebody in 20 seconds what was wrong. It's kind of weird watching people 'care' about others like it's just something optional in life? I spent so much of my early life caring about others every day - not overtly but just kinda giving a damn when others didn't. I had many comments from people that really appreciated when I listened to them - I still remember some today.

A win today is feeling like I'm getting near the top of my mountain of personal issues from years past.

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