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~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Hey forums fam. Today, as many of you probably know, is R U Okay Day. I’ve been here long enough to know that this day can actually be kinda triggering for those living with complex mental health. Because a lot of the time, we aren’t really okay, and being asked that question can feel like a bit of a slap in the face.

I just want to take a moment to acknowledge that, acknowledge that having only one day a year where people might think to check up on us, or to have someone we’re not close to ask us that question when they probably don’t want to know the real answer, can feel really lousy.

So I won’t ask you.

But I do know that all of us here are surviving. The amount of courage, resilience, tenacity, and fortitude that I witness in all of you is truly inspiring to me. And the ways I see this community band together to look after one another is so incredible and so meaningful – enough so that I reckon this community is the number one reason I’ve stuck around for the last four years. You’re all absolutely amazing!

So feel free to use this post as an opportunity to talk about your own experiences of R U Okay Day, and I would also love if we can all share some of our little wins, so we can remind ourselves that even if we’re not okay, we still have things we can celebrate together.

For me, my recent little win is that I paid my car rego on time. My ADHD brain is an expert in forgetting things and so actually remembering to do something important feels like a victory for me. Yay! I’m an adult!!

What about you forums fam, any little wins of late?

@Shaz51 @Dimity @Bunniekins @Jacques @TAB @wordman @Former-Member @Zoe7 @NatureLover @Oaktree @Meggles @Eve7 @pinklollipop15 @MDT @Glisten @Boppa @whatsaname @Snowie @creative_writer @Bow @Captain24 @Owlunar @Fluttershy1 @justanotherguy

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

there’s talk of me possibly being able to take a couple of days off but my hours/days have changed since I been back so it’s not as easy as it is so to be to take a long weekend or few days off @tyme

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

I should probably try an early one tonight @Shaz51 - we'll see though 😅

@Former-Member lol did you make that?

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Hi @Jynx

My win is that I got out of bed today. Small victory that feels huge.

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Nice one @Snowie that is absolutely a win 💜

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

No @Jynx saw it on twitter 🙂

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

I guess that’s a win not for today but in general I have been “restricted” I guess to working 4 days a week for a couple of years due to injury and now I’m working 5 so that’s a good thing I guess

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hi @Jynx yes, R U OK day is a real trigger for me, anyone and everyone i speak to when they ask the question turn and run in fear when i tell them how i am really going, asking are you ok is fine as long as you have the tools to help. i know R U OK is trying to help people to be able to help others. but it can do more harm than good if the person asking is not ready for the real answer.

my little win is getting through a mental health breakdown a few weeks ago, i didn't think i was going to make it through the other side. i don't know why i keep fighting, but i do. i guess hoping for things to get better one day.

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Big win - I’m going home 🎉 Ending 10 months of couch-surfing and living out of a suitcase.

Friends offered me there apartment that they don’t “really use”.

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

I felt incredibly sad and tired today. Inspite of that I managed to take myself driving for a house inspection, fill out an online application (incredibly hard for a Luddite like me), cook dinner and relax under the camellias at the coffee shop a while. On top of that I found Grace rather than fear in communication with my abuser today.

At the moment I should be punching the air and strutting with a victory pose, but I am still just so tired and so numb.

Be that as it may, the writing on the wall tells me I did OK today. It'll do.

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