Far and Away

That idea that you should be at home with the adult kids is completely outrageous seeing as he is never there himself and the BDs need to be working at finding there own feet also @Faith-and-Hope - grr!

He cannot see at all that his issues are affecting the BDs independence and have contributed to how they cope with things. It really is a very sad situation and I know so much of it comes from his mother and her beliefs on what You should be doing. So hard to be living with all that control and pressure - especially when things do not need doing at all

I hope you have found some space in today for yourself Hon

Toby and Cat hugs incoming and a huge one from me

big hugs @Faith-and-Hope

love and hugs to @Zoe7 , @BlueBay , @oceangirl , @Former-Member

@Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @Sans911 If any of you are around tonight I could do with a chat.

I'm here @Zoe7 . Is there a particular topic of conversation you would like to partake in, or just distraction? I am watching the opening match of world cup cricket right now, between Poms and Sth Africa.

Hi @Shaz51 Missed your tag earlier. Notifications been all over the place for past day and a half. Still havent got the one above from you. But did get zoes.

Sherry

Hey @Sans911 @Former-Member Thank you. I am very much feeling like I need to leave the forum. I have been made to feel like not only am I not enough but also lack insight. That is not something I never thought I would hear from anyone. Unfortuntely it tops off a pretty horrible few weeks. I don't need either of you to try to convince me to stay - that will be a decision I will make over the next few days but finding it a very hard place to be right now. I know I need you all in my life but I don't know how to be here right now. I could really do with some help on all this. I want to do it alone but also know that is not a good place for me to be when I feel like this.

here for you @Zoe7

hugs @Former-Member

Oh no @Zoe7 ... you most definitely do not lack insight! You're not enough? Really 😱 ?? No no no ..... simply not the case Zoe.

I dont really know how to respond to that talk Zoe. Those thoughts could not be any further from the truth.

I dont know what more has been said or done in the past day or so to make you believe that. But its so very wrong. I have always found you to be one of the most insightful people I've ever known. And you have a wonderful knack of knowing just the right thing to say, to so many of us out here.

To be completely honest Zoe, it makes me angry that someone somewhere somehow is planting those seeds of self doubt in your mind. You are vulnerable right now, please try not to allow those thoughts to take root and germinate.

Having said that, it appears to me that the forums may not be the right environment for you at this moment in time. It could be appropriate to take a short, but complete, break for a while. It upsets me to say that .. especially when I know how much you rely on some members here, such as @Faith-and-Hope .

Can I ask if you discussed the recent developments here, with your psych on Wednesday? And if so, did they have any advice for you?

I would be terribly upset if you chose to leave, and I know a great many others would too. But Zoe .. its time you put yourself and your needs first. Its not about us any more. It needs to be about you, and whats best for you and your long term wellbeing. If being here is hurting you, or is a cause of distress, then its not where you should be right now.

I should add that whatever your decision is now, it does not have to be a permanent one. You can always come back.

I offer you my care, friendship and heartfelt well wishes .. whatever you decide to do. And if you choose to go ... I will live in hope that you will return in due course.

Sherry 😢💕

@Former-Member Your post has disappeared and I don't know why - it did not breach any guidelines @Former-Member ???