Far and Away

😔 I’m really sorry to hear this @Faith-and-Hope

That is so disheartening to hear. It upsets me when people cannot adult for children.
I think you are 100% right. This new person in ex’s life will succumb to an entrapment of their own, dealing with him.

For you and in turn your baby dragons, remember to remind yourself how far you have come. It has been a long journey and you have done exceptionally well.

Keep seeing the light and moving toward your own happiness.

Thank you @Former-Member 😊♥

Yes my new furbaby Hannah is a true delight. Beginning of a new life for me after some really difficult years.

I am unaware of your life situation, but do know @Faith-and-Hope 's with her ex. My husband passed away in 2021 after a battle with cancer. Prior to his passing I was subjected to all the typical treatment that is dished out by a true narcissist. Isnt it odd how mercurial, amazing and charming they appear to everyone else? Yet how different are they behind closed doors? Very few of his friends or family saw the sinister side to him. And I managed to hide it from them 😔

Numerous times I was advised by psych and GP to 'get out while you still can'. But silly me, I loved him, and always forgave him when he said it wouldnt happen again. 😳

In the end, he needed me and I did my best for him. Life without him is lonely, but oh so simple. It takes some adjustment. And I now have little Hannah 🐶 who I hope to train up as my assistance dog through MindDog Aust.

I'm glad your furbaby is giving you some comfort @Emelia8 . You have been so brave and resilient.

You have been so brave and resilient @Emelia8 . And it is a choice whether to stay or go, for entirely personal reasons. It’s a walk we have been on together across the forums for a few years now. So glad you have your little Hannah and she will love you unconditionally. I have my cats, my baby dragons, and my grand-baby dragons …..

Thank you @Glisten. It is always good to hear that advice ❣️ It helps to support my resolve when backwash moments arrive, as I am experiencing now. Some items were “returned” to one of the baby dragons recently, and it was clear that ex had taken them pre-emotively to his final discard ….. grrrrr ….. at least they are finding their way back to where they belong now. May it be so with everything else he has tarnished.

❤️ @Former-Member . The tide is turning. The journey continues ……

Hugs @Zoe7 @Snowie @Shaz51

Happy to hear a few things are slowly being 'returned' @Faith-and-Hope . Hopefully other precious items will start to filter back to you one way or another too in the months to come. ♥

Good evening @Emelia8

Yes, I understand your position very much.

Perhaps, you stayed because you followed your own integrity. I think this is powerful and shows great strength.

And yes whether anyone has chosen to stay or leave a narc, the story is never really heard by those who have not experienced this.

Years ago I felt very hurt, when everything I had confided was swept

under the carpet so to speak. It hurt and I vowed to keep my silence.
However, it played against me nicely again. Before we know what we are in, the narc has already found ways to pull us back in again.
I hear you, and don’t feel this was your deficit. I think really it is anything far from such reason.
You learnt to survive as we all do, somedays I damn well surprise myself at all the lies and deceit I listened too!! 😂

Often I’ve found myself really looking at people, each fitting into their own comfort zone. I must say it often really surprises me.
I had an interesting day being stalked, accused and then found an object in my front yard upon returning home, that could be used to throw at a window?
It was carefully placed on some toys I left out for free. The toys had not moved for two days then the object, after today.
🤷🏼‍♀️ All the same I notice a lot more.

Sorry I had no idea @Faith-and-Hope you are with your ex. I’m trains behind time. But I keep turning up at the station as we do, to get on with the days work. Sometimes forgetting so many things. It’s just not possible to complete it all. I do think evidence for trauma and neural pathways do affect how we work.
As long as I keep getting on that damn train that is always late!! 😂

Thank you @Former-Member 🙏 you show enormous comprehension and capacity to understand, that only someone with lived experience could have. ♥

@Emelia8

I hope today is kind to you, with your beautiful Hannah.🥰

I am exhausted, it seems for days.

I’m tired of the thought that I now have the same dialogue over again with another man to yet another child. Who is the same as the first.

I was astonished when a mutual friend or so I thought, told me I looked drawn, and needed to get my s*** together.

I was dumbfounded, for I have been working a physically job to support three children of various ages.

Whilst this grown adult is doing nothing, but playing the poor victim, stalking me and so called working again. Which is very suddenly new after a good solid few years of not due to injury claim.

Yesterday’s accusation and attempt was outright silly and crazy.

I used to wonder, who is this person?

I realise he expects entitlement due his own grandiose perception of self.

I just moving forward, some days are not easy.
But 100% I give my all.
Have a wonderful day.x

Ohhh @Former-Member ♥😔 thats so hard. I am really sorry you continue to endure this behavior and situation. So very unfair.

You have my understanding and unwavering support. 💞

😔❤️😥 feeling for you too @Former-Member !!

Not at all “with” the ex. He’s been around, and because there are kids in the mix I can’t go no-contact completely. He’s living overseas with the newby, but comes and parades themselves over here periodically, and because he’s put a ring on it now he / they think it’s all legit, and are becoming more and more openly entitled :face_with_rolling_eyes:. They have gone interstate now, and will hopefully disappear again shortly. Not soon enough.