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Thanks @Faith-and-Hope, how's your adventure going? Is there a particular thread your putting updates? Jetlag takes about a week to settle I'm told, and I'm sure there's son Celtic wisdom to get over your post viral fatigue How's WH coping with his obcessive routines while travelling? A challenge I would think 😕 Hope this is a time yo rekindle some first love maybe. Any good churches to visit there? Did you go this morning? Love ancient architecture and history. Churches are great for it. Hugz xox
Hadn't thought to start a new thread ....
In transit again today and have to go again now .... found a brief moment with wifi .... will catch you later and answer the above.
You can say I am missed @Sans911 (and underneath I do know that) but presently it is a difficult thing for me to accept. That is entirely because of how I am feeling and trying to keep my distance from everyone is my way of not having to connect with any emotions. It is a vicious cycle but sometimes 'not feeling', 'not thinking' and not having any care shown me is my best defence for survival. So in order to 'feel any better' I have to not feel at all.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Zoe7 I hear what you say but i don't believe it. I've seen before that you find strength from the care shown by others. But whatever gets you through, I get that. Just take care,whatever you do. And well always be here, silently awaiting your return to life
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Love you too @Zoe7 .....
I hope you sleep quickly and well ..... 😴💕
Keep taking care of you .... I will be here for you when you can next pop in for a visit.
🤗💚💐🌷💕🤗💚💐🌷💕🤗
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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The difference this time @Sans911 is how totally overwhelming and all consuming my feelings are. I failed in an attempt to end it once and at that time I had more physical energy and strength than I do now. I am not saying that I am in immediate danger of doing that again atm but I am less likely to be connecting with anyone when I can't provide support myself or even find the words to say exactly how I am feeling when I am 'not feeling'! In those times there is no support that anyone could give that woulld actually 'register' with me as I block out all memories and suppress all feelings for self-protection. This definitely happens when the pain gets too much to deal with and I 'shut-down'!
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Hi Hon. Hope you are having a good day @Faith-and-Hope Thinking of you...
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Hi @Zoe7 ...... 🤗💚💐💕🌈
That teddy with a rose is gorgeous .... ❣️
My day has been okay ..... just a few bumps usual to family life.
Thinking of you and holding you in love and light .....,
💚💐🌷💜💕🌈🦋🎶🐚🐬🤗
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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@Faith-and-Hope what bumps have you encountered today Hon?
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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I knocked over WH's computer by accident .... I had to sit at his desk to sign some paperwork and s couple of the many cables caught on the armrest of his desk chair, pulling the computer down from where (I now know) it was balanced on top of another, much smaller box u set his desk. If I had seen it there beforehand I would have scratched my head that he had done that ..... it wasn't secure and doesn't make sense .....
I tried to work out whether the computer had actually fallen, cos it seemed to have slipped from somewhere ...... but couldn't work it out so I left it sat on the floor next to the other box.
In any case, one of the many devices that was plugged into it had been pulled out by the swivel of the chair, which wasn't much, which meant that it didn't take much ..... but when I went to our room to tell him, he was fast asleep ..... deeply asleep because he would usually respond to the opening of the door, because he usually disturbs easily ..... so I left the component on the bedside table, thinking he could call me to ask about what happened, and I went out.
Well, he called me ...... telling me the computer is dented now, and how could that have happened ? I explained, as I just have to you ..... and he said he can't understand how it wouldn't have made a hellava noise because it was dented ...... and in discussion I worked out that it had been balanced on the smaller box ..... to which he replied that it had sat there quite safely for three years .... ??!!
I don't know whether to laugh ..... it just feels so ludicrous ...... and you know what ? It took down all his cameras from the monitor ..... I guess if I want to turn off all the camera surveillance over us, I just. We'd to drop his computer on its head ..... lol ....
Shouldn't be laughing, but it's probably laugh or cry ...... 😏
D3 has had a bit of a health scare ..... so it's off to the dr for her shortly too ..... something I won't mention here that can be a bit frightening without being too serious. I had plans to catch up with a friend so all of that is off the table ..... but family comes first.
S2 isn't up yet. He is still staying up all night, and I can see WH just doesn't know what to do with himself. We have family counselling again on Thirs, so I guess that is what is going to dominate the conversation. Without his controlling "tools", WH is adrift without rudder, oars or sails ...... and I can't do anything to fix this .....
💜
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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@Faith-and-Hope as soon as I started reading I thought - wouldn't it be cool if that was the computer attached to the monitoring devices! So as I read further I started to smirk! Then I got to the 'drop his computer on it's head' part and I actually laughed out loud - haven't laughed in weeks
Seems a bit like Karma biting WH on the butt lol
I hope everything is ok with D3 this afternoon - even though it may not be serious it is your daughter and you don't want your kids to be sick in any way
I know you can't do anything to fix the situation with S2 and WH but you have said previously that S2 is 'pushing back' against WH and there have been some times of calm. Thursday will be another of those very difficult and nervous days (as I suspect these few days leading up to the appointment will be also).
I can't make any promises to anyone atm but I can let you know that if you put the call out to me I will do everything I can to be here for you.
You are always in my thoughts and much loved...
Zoe
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Thank you so much @Zoe7 .....
I realised after I had posted that I forgot to tag you in it, but you found it anyway ......
Just organising some lunch here, then off to the dr with D3 ......
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