Just checking in.

Hi @Former-Member - thank you for your kind and supportive post. I hope she wakes up soon too! It really does not have to be this hard at all.

Today has been a much more relaxing day. Have been sharing photos on Facebook, sewing and generally feeling good. Like your son, my daughter moved out of home at 16 - but wanted to return as she couldn't cope without us financially. It's good to read that you are still close to your son - I believe if my daughter moved out we would be closer as well. And she may grow up and learn quicker.

It is hard to cope with when they act up like that under our roofs for sure. The stress horrific. I wouldn't mind if she would listen to the advice of her parents and prevent more grief, but she keeps making the same mistakes then shutting herself off in her room. I wish she would help herself. Hopefully in time....much patience is required. I would love to see glimpse again of that beautiful, kind, peaceful person whom was so respectful of herself and others again. I would give anything. Maybe one day...

Did you Skype your son? It's nice how you keep in touch. Hope today was relaxing for you too. Hugs 💕xx

Hi @utopia @Former-Member @Zoe7 plus @ All hope you all had a good Christmas , mine was ok, well had to bail for a few days re staying at parents, but were lots good moments and will go back there before leave again

@TAB@Former-Member@Former-Member@utopia@Faith-and-Hope@Appleblossom and everyone else!!!!

Had luch with family today for Mum's birthday. Yesterday was a really long day and today added to that. Ok mentally just physically exhausted. Haven't done that much in two days for over 4 months - body just can't cope! Had some sleep but need a lot more - not happening at the moment. Haven't read any posts yet - will when I'm able. Hoping to be able to stay up for 20/20 cricket tonight - Go the Purple Haze!!!

Hoping you are all safe and thinking of you all

@Former-Member Hi sis - will try and be awake tonight when you get home - hope your day was awesome and you had a lovely dinner with parents :heart Hugs and kisses to Kira also

Hi my Xmas with family had good bits, couldnt escape petty, grinding, repetitive negativity over nothing from father tho, that wore me down in the end.. who dared to bring tomatos ..who put those lemons there, who put the garage door down, whose is that cup in your room .. so I said I would remove it. No! I want an answer, that is not an answer! .. and sister backed his ludicrous behaviour to the hilt, she did the exact same thing ..I demand to know .. over and over and allabout ..nothing .. wonder who taught whom re that behaviour, itspretty out there. I demand to know, ie trying to set a trap for verbal tirade/putdowns .. its a coffee mug .. get over it ..ffs lol ...having time out for a few days at motel, prob go back for chores and good byes @Zoe7 its all very odd, just ask a fishing question, then demand an answer if the new norm. Could have

A not let it bother you

B fixed the problem

C not blamed someone else for your own defective thoughts

its been a ride..

@TAB Sounds like a roller coast not the ferris wheel! You got through the day and it sounds like you did it well - good on you! You're sister has certainly learned that behaviour from your father - family hey! Makes us seem the most 'mormal' people in the world - why can't people just let 'things' BE - no ribbing, no questioning, no drama?

My family had a few little goes at annoyin me yesterday but a couple of times I actually stood my ground and told them exactly what I thought about their behaviour and to stop. I also went outside on my own a few times just to avoid any arguments - decided better to leave than get angry. It seemed to work - stayed calm and came back in when unwanted discussions were over.

Made it through the day (after being extrememly sick mid afternoon - ate too much - IBS chronic!!) Still exhausted but proud of myself for getting through the day so well.

Took Toby to the beach after they had all left so I could have some wind-down time, came home and spent most of the rest of the night lying on the couch trying not to sleep too early!

In relation to your A B C's - A is the answer! B is their problem and C - well - no wonder with your family!

Hmm ..well ..re my family.. do you know them haha lol @Zoe7 ..and same situ sounds re removing self etc, except I didnt stand up to him, just bit tongue while getting angrier and angrier at his idiotic manner ..maybe because hes bought into his new God like status by getting his ego fed by sister and husband .. who knows who cares, plus if you act like an AH, and are generally otherwise compus, then should be prepared to get it back in spades when continually rude and unreasonable .. I'd like to see what meds he's on these days lol .. its similar behaviour to 'peppy' people have come across in the past lol

We had lunch at my place this year - first time ever - so my garden is nice and peaceful for me - wasn't going to let anyone take that away from me yesterday (must be making progress!!) so chose to avoid their sh*t when looked like an argument was about to start. Chose my times to bite back carefully and was very selective with the words I used so as not to add fuel to the fire - wanted to yell at them to stop and just sh*tup but asked calmly to move on - then I moved outside!!!

Think your dad may need some different meds LOL maybe put some sleepy aids in his dinner LOL to calm him down

Hmm well sounds like you were on top of it @Zoe7 and am not a Dr re giving people sleeping meds ha ..