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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Weird and validating at the same time. @CheerBear. Two months before I bought that book my son was diagnosed with adhd. Through that time I began to realise I possibly had it too. I did online tests and made an appointment with a specialist adhd psychiatrist at the time. She thought I had ticked enough boxes but I needed to get a psychological assessment done first costing over $1000 and I couldn’t afford that. I think that I must have bought the book after that assessment. I was really really unwell and suicidal at that time. Not long after I attempted.
After I came out of hospital I talked to my therapist about it and she didn’t think I had it. I began to feel like a bit of a drama queen about it and didn’t follow up on it. I guess over the years I began to doubt it more and more.
To have the diagnosis come the way it has actually feels better. My psych has a real interest in women with it and recently attended a conference. She said that she was more convinced than ever that I have it from that. I think my therapist will not agree still but that’s ok. I know she wasn’t keen on me trying the meds but I think it’s time that I try, and try to work with it and not against it.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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ethSenior Contributor
Sending 
s and support @Teej @CheerBear
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TeejSenior Contributor
Hey @CheerBear , sorry I ended up in a strange headspace and didn’t respond last night.
I have a question. Is unwell ones behaviour related to their illness? I think there is a point that you could have that discussion if it isn’t. You have nothing to lose. In a way it’s probably a good time in that unwell one has enjoyed you being around. Knowing time is limited they might be more receptive if they know it’s making life tricky for you all......And then again I could be very wrong but just thought I’d give you something to think about 😘
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outlanderSenior Contributor
Thinking of you @Teej @CheerBear 🌸🌈❤
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
I know this may seem warped but I’m feeling proud of you @CheerBear for talking through the hard stuff and for reaching out for help (twice in a day....I’m guessing that a record 😘) and for being a loving family member who is caught in a really hard situation on so many levels. 💜💜💜
Try not be so hard on yourself for your thoughts. We all have those kind of thoughts at times like this, it’s that part of being human and not perfect thing (yep feel free to send this back one day).
I hope you can be gentle on you today...and tomorrow...and the next day. The roller coaster you are on will have an ending and something else may take its place (well one stuff) but what you are going through now is one of life’s hardest and cruelest things.
Thinking of you 💐💐💐💐💐
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
@CheerBear, don`t feel sorry for venting my friend xoxo
we are here for you xoxo
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