Just checking in.

Oh no for the cramps @Shaz51 . That leaves you in pain and sleep deprived. I hope tonight is better.

I have lawyers involved and we are doing lots to the house to sell it @eth . It will painted throughout and new carpets, new light fitting etc which we will go halves in and get done professionally, it will cost a bit but will change the house dramatically and make it more saleable. I will get something out of it but much will go to my brother as I owe him a great deal of money possibly approaching 100k.

PS @eth my darling bro like yours is helping out as much as he can. He is paying for renos to be done but will be reimbursed from the sale.

Part 3 @eth

it’s all his rubbish littered all over the yard and in the sheds that is what I’m worried about. He has hoarded lots of stuff since we left. What was once a beautiful garden is now a junk yard with dead trees everywhere 😢🤯😡

That's so unfair and sad that he's let it all go so completely. Feel for you @Teej So glad you have your brother's support. I am sure you'll get through this and feel a lot better once it's all behind you.

Hey @CheerBear, @eth (@Snowy , @Sans911 , @outlander and others following along)

@CheerBear i gathered you were wearing lots of the load that way too. Has well one got a brother or sister around (they could be an only child too). I can imagine how hard that would be for them to reach out. I remember my parents meeting my therapist many years ago. There was a family meeting with all my brew, my parents and my therapist. It was actually really helpful for them all at the time. It also made counselling seem less scary to the olds. Maybe you could do it as family counselling and go with them and maybe drag some siblings too. It might gently open more doors for you all. Just a suggestion. .....a fixit one 😳

I don’t think I’d counted on having to have so much contact and so much to do with it all. The good that’s come out of it is it is giving the kids and I some strange closure. None of us thought we needed it but we probably do. After this weekend I want to get the one who needs the closure the most there but I’m not sure how to do it so there is closure and not confrontation. There is much anger from him at my ex even all these years on. He will be so relieved when he his gone. The risk of a physical altercation if provoked is by my ex is pretty high, my son would win the fight but lose the war. It’s something I don’t want my son to get caught up in.

There is still guilt for his behaviour in that if he has offended again it will go unanswered again. I guess maybe you can relate to this concept a bit. What does it take for things to stop?

The bad is that knowing there is so much to do but uncertainty of it all in more ways than one. I’m not sure where we are at legally. I think my ex thinks I’ve dropped the lawyer but we haven’t. There is much angst and stress to come from that. It will be though the lawyer that I get some guarantees about what work will be done and by whom and when. I’m missing my bro lots for this and have my head in the sand a fair bit. Next week I will probably have to face that again.

For now now though I have some fond memories sitting in front of me. While typing this I can see many boxes of jigsaw puzzles of all types and sizes. My boys and two in particular loved them.' They are going straight to the pool room', sorry little 'the castle' quote there

I also had some some other news that has been freaking me out lots. Boy is my psych in for it this week. I won’t say much yet.....only to say that my first thought when being told was that maybe when that happens it will be my time to suicide. Thus the head has been buried deep in the sand over this one for now. I just have to survive the property settlement first.

Well rave away you said 😜💜🤗.

Yep I’m good for any others to join in.