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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks @outlander 👍🏻
Spidey senses going off @CheerBear . Are you ok or just very busy?
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TeejSenior Contributor
Webs now going off, it’s getting messy here @CheerBear . Want to spill (I can catch the spill in my web 😘) or not. It’s ok if not, I’ll just get the cobweb broom out. Thinking of you for whatever is going on......even if that is not wanting to deal with an OTT intense teej (with a week to go for hormones to take a break 😳:face_with_rolling_eyes:).
💜🤗
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
hugs my @Teej 
Hello @outlander , @eth , @Bimby2 , @CheerBear
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Cheers @CheerBear , I’ll just get the cob web broom out. Phew lucky you responded when you did or I’d have a lot more to clean up 😜😉
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
yaaa holidays @CheerBear 
i remeber them wellllllll 
Hormones---- ha ha yaaaaa 
@CheerBear , @Teej , @outlander , @eth , @Bimby2
had lots of leg cramps last night , soo painful , sore legs today
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Awesome to read of the fun parts you are having with family @CheerBear . It sounds like great experiences for all. LF must be loving it.
i can understand the tricky with the well and unwell ones. Maybe the self care time away will help a bit for you. It must be so so hard for well one. Does well one have close friends or siblings that are good listeners too?
@CheerBear My situation is quite tricky in that he has pretty much given up on everything. You have to fight through cobwebs in every room of the house. Everything in the cupboards we take out is full of webs and spiders eggs. It has layers of dust everywhere. The rats have got into lots which we are just throwing away. The kitchen bench was covered in mice poos and wee and so it’s like a haunted house but he still lives in it. He told me he’d been accused of the old behaviour again but denied he did it. I’ll never know but suspect when I connected the dots he did. There is now a seven ft fence the neighbour has erected, so spidey senses think that life is tricky for him. I have to remember though that he was the one who stopped seeking help and when he was seeking help he wasn’t doing it for him. I still struggle to put the two versions of him together. It not healthy for me to try anymore though.
The boys and and I talked through the emotional stuff last night which was good for us all. I have my doubts that he can prepare the house for sale. I know I have to go back to the lawyer next week and sort more out.
Am ok for anyone to respond to this. @eth I’ll tag you since I said I’d catch up earlier.
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ethSenior Contributor
Hi @CheerBear good to hear from you. I hadn't realized school hols had started already. Sounds like a pretty full-on few days you've had. Nice that you are getting a night to yourself tonight. Hope work continues to be as good as it has so far. Best wishes for no more nightmares.
@Shaz51 magnesium is said to be really good to prevent cramps. Hope they ease off soon.
@Teej sorry we were posting at the same time. How awful that he's let things go so badly in the house. Which it sounds like needs to be sold to settle financially properly. Can your lawyer oblige him to get professional cleaners in? I've never been through a property settlement so I don't really know how it works, hope you come out of it on top.
Must be very complicated feelings for you dealing with seeing him again. As I said earlier, stay strong. You have worked very hard to create a new life.
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