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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
Jibberish is good @Teej ..... we’ve all got that dialect here .....
A lot of what we are all dealing with exists in bits and pieces, and often gets put together in ways that Picasso would probably recognise ...... but that’s okay. It gets put together and progressively tweaked into better shape.
We are enough.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Yep .... and expecting a houseful of dragons .....
This could be very interesting .....
@Teej
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TeejSenior Contributor
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Keep me in the loop @Faith-and-Hope . I hope it goes ok. Dragon land is good but unpredictable in my experiences. Had mine all here last night and it was all kinds of messy and awkward but good in the end. I have a clash of generations. My olds are wanting to eat earlier and my dragons are arriving later and later. It was 8:15 before we ate last night.
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
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Hi @Faith-and-Hope@Teej
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TeejSenior Contributor
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Hey 👋🏻@oceangirl. How are you?
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
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I've been struggling of late @Teej But have felt better the last few days. How are you?
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TeejSenior Contributor
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Still rollercoasting up and down but am ok for tonight @oceangirl . I’m glad you are feeling a bit better now. 💜🤗
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Hi @oceangirl👋💕
@Teej they are all mine + married ones ..... but they he dynamics change, as they must, with the additions ...... and then there’s my mr.’s trying to control everyone into being happy, together, or he’s very absent when he is expected to be present .....nothing in half measure ...., and all the hidden behaviours to keep hidden when there are more eyes and inquiring minds about the place.
Interesting.
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TeejSenior Contributor
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Ok @CheerBear . Need to know if I trod on your toes with my last post. I have a feeling I did. Am ok about it but would like to know if I did to be careful to get my clod hoppers out the way.
Not sure whfn you apoointment is but wishing you good luck.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Not at all @Teej ❤ I cuddled a puppy and found myself asleep last night. I read your post with half awake eyes on my way to bed and was going to write back because I was thinking you might be thinking something like this, but was so 😴 I couldn't. Big ❤ You never toe tread with me 🙂
I've just walked out of my appointment and am having a sit down in some sun before the drive home (the home away from home). I collected some more letters from the DSM today - OCPD (and a psych with his hands rubbing together and an "it's only taken you 8 years of working with me to get here" which I corrected and said "just over 7" 😉).
I feel a bit scattered and weird. It's not something I've seen or heard much of or many people talk about experiencing so I feel like a bit of a freak at the moment and I'm really not loving some reflecting on behaviours I've done. Psych mentioned that it's not exactly often that people open up about it or accept it (something along those lines anyway) @Faith-and-Hope. Thought of you and Mr there ❤
But the flip side is feeling OK about what this might mean in terms of being able to give some stuff up (control, perfectionism, order, rigidity etc) that I think helps me and in a way has helped me by keeping me safe and ordered, but isn't so helpful now and is holding me back. And it's tiring. Really tiring.
Venty, spilly post. Appreciative of the space to do that though.
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