Just checking in.

Sorry about earlier @CheerBear . I ended up having a kind of crazy night. Had stomach cramps (thinking a small dose of food poisoning or a virus) that kept me up until 6:00am. I woke briefly when I wrote the post to you then crashed until my appointment this afternoon. Only just beginning to feel human with a cuppa and biscuit. My appointment was messy too, ended up in tears in full emotion mind which switched off. Enough about me though.

Im thinking there could be worse letters next to your name. Thinking MAFS would be one 😜😘. I know it feels heavy but I’m hoping it will feel lighter as you get to address some it. With all these things there are strengths and struggles. I could use a little of your oc traits because there are times they’d be a strength too. I’m not trying to minimise this at all because I know enough to know OC traits can be debilitating too. So my take on all this is perhaps we can share some letters between OCPD, BPD, DPD, PTSD, ADHD etc and come up with some really 😎 labels and letters cos we are people first 😘. How about PATC? Pretty Addicted To Crochet 😄 or DCP? Deeply Caring Person or BBOT? Banana Brain Operating Today 😉

had and to laugh at you correcting him too 😜😄

Smiling here too @Teej @CheerBear ......

I think it’s important to remember that the whole point of a diagnosis is for support and assistance to make things happen better for you. I know there can be a while lota sucky in there with stigma and what-not, but the thing is, OCPD, BBOT, and even MAFS have always been there ...... it’s the getting to know the whys and wherefores to head into more fu criminal behaviours and relationships is what the labelling is all about, and labels can and do change.

I think it helps to put things back into a general medical arena. There is no use ignoring a broken leg ..... y’need to get a cast on the thing and get it better, and some breaks never really heal to the full mobility or strength point they were at before (especially multiple fractures), but that doesn’t stop us from treating them and getting to a more workable place anyway ......

Treating my current banana brain with my first coffee for the day ... 😉. Cart before the horse today, but she still goes .....

It has been a long day @CheerBear, and I hope I haven’t done any toe-stepping myself here ..... I too hope that my mr. can not only return to pre-strength, but be better and stronger for it all, and the rest of us along with him.

I also think the skepticism is healthy ..... from our own experiences along with a good dose of common sense, because there are strengths and weaknesses to everything, and I know that is what you are talking about here too ..... harmessing strengths, but deciding where the zone is that crosses from helpful to unhelpful ..... all on a spectrum that can slide around a bit too.

I have the deepest respect for the challenges involved, not knowing where ours are going, but drawing hope from your determination, perseverance, and making things work.

And a whole lot of these ..... 💜💐🌷🐾🌈💕 @CheerBear

Never any toe-steppig @Faith-and-Hope ❤

Thank you for understanding. I really like the idea of the spectrum of unhelpful to helpful and all that might exist on it.

Also a really big thank you for being safe and understanding enough for me to express a different opinion or perspective. I really, really appreciate that (you) F&H.

I hope so much that Mr F&H can one day soon see that there are healthier ways of coping with whatever is going on for him.

Big ❤ and oodles of 🦄🦄🦄🦄 (cos why not 😉😊)

Big love @CheerBear 🌈💜🌷💕

So much of life exists on a spectrum in my thinking ..... each of us have to move the sliders around to find the best checks and balanced we know how ..... and they don’t stay the same because life doesn’t stay the same, and we are fluid within it too .....

So glad you’re here ❣️

hugs @CheerBear

Hello @Faith-and-Hope , @Teej , @oceangirl , @Zoe7