I am sure he is quite unsettled that I am going to a new counsellor @Teej, knowing full well that what I will be chatting to her about includes him and how I feel about his “lifestyle”, and what I perceive to be the impact of that on the rest of us. It’s everything he wants to remain under the carpet where he feels he has swept it to, and he is probably unsure whether or how much this will impact on him.
I imagine, just by the fact that he feels the need to hide some of his behaviours and stand guard over them, that somewhere in his psyche he understands that not al is well with him, and may fear being “outed” too.
It’s something else he can’t control, and yeah .... that seems to unleash emotional tornados......