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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Hopefully that isn't the ca;m before the storm for you from friend @CheerBear It is certainly not what I expected his response would be but maybe he has been feeling the distance between you for some time too.
I am up super eatly - nightmare woke me and I decided to stay up. It is going to make it more difficult to get throught he day but we have the school athletics carnival today which I am going to after my morning with the 1/2 class. It is supposed to be hot today - mid 30s so that is going to be challenging as well. I will need to take my cream as well as sunscreen and wear a long sleeve top. Feeling pretty tired right now but hoping that passes a little as the day goes on.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Definitely everything crossed that friend doesn't turn into that storm Hon. I have no doubt you can be strong when you need to be @CheerBear as we constantly see that from you here - many hugs and much love back to you. I hope you feel the weight of all the tricky off your shouldres a bit today. Remember also that it is a loss and despite you feeling okay about the decision you also have the right to grieve - here for you throughout this Hon 💜💙💚🧡💛
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TeejSenior Contributor
Just caught up here after human has returned a bit. @Zoe7 , @CheerBear it’s awesome you have this support for very tricky he stuff. I’m mightily impressed that you’ve both found and kept boundaries which is so hard.
How did sw go @CheerBear . @Zoe7 Did you survive yesterday ok?
I am going to have lots of ex he stuff going on. He is asking for compassion because his financial situation isn’t great but hello neither is mine. I know what comes next and it will be so messy. Lots of heart string pulling followed by then turning me into the enemy and big bad wolf when he doesn’t get his way. 😬😫. Just glad I have my bro helping.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
It was a long day at the Athletics Catnival in the heat but luckily I was in the shade for most of it. The kids were really well behaved and that made it easy to supervise them. They nearly all participated in every event so that was lovely to see too. Dinner was good - the food so so good for me but the comoany was lovely so that made up for it @Teej .
It is good to hear you are feeling a bit more human - it is hard to stay on top of things when you are not Hon. I know you have a lot going on and this new roung of tricky would not be helping. You are struggling money wise and his issues aren't what you need. Stand your ground Hon - he has to find a way as you need that little extra to help you get through as well. I do hope it doesn't get messy as that is exactly what you don't need - fingers (and everything) crossed that it works itself out without too much drama.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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ethSenior Contributor
Good morning @CheerBear @Teej @Zoe7 hoping today is peaceful for you all. Guessing what 'he stuff' refers to - I hope it settles down CB and Teej. Glad to hear you have your brother's support Teej.
Sending warm wishes to all of you.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Got through the heat yesterday by staying inside @CheerBear I slept most of the afternoon after sleeping in in the morning as well. Fell asleep on the couch last night and stayed there until about 5 o'clock when I move to the bed. Woke about 10 with both my babies on the bed so that was a lovely way to wake up 😺🐶
I am pleased to hear you have had no further contact with friend and can absolutely see it would be frustrating that he couldn't respect those boundaries earlier as things could have been quite different for you - but it is what it is and you have obviously done the right thing with ending that relationship.
I hear you about the sw Hon - what is being presented to you is not what you need and that is going to be tricky to work through - hopefully this sw is able to listen to you needs and can provide some of that help as well. I suppose you will need to talk to her to see if she is also the listening and sorting out type to know if she will help you in that respect.
@Teej Big hugs for the sorting out of the ex stuff - not at all easy when they are asking for compassion but you need the money also - the ex will need to sort it out because you can't be left without what you are entitled to 
Hi @eth A cooler day here today so much easier to get through. Have things I need to get done but should be a peaceful enough day. Hope yours is peaceful also 
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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