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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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@utopia wrote:
@Former-Member. No you were right to say what you said. It's how you feel. that's whats so special about this forum. We all have different experiences. Different coping techniques.
And I love how you are protective of us - your friends - your forum family. I could see that in your post to me.
And you are right. He should have said something to me. He should have had the guts. But he didn't. That's my reality. And I think that's @Zoe 's reality as well. But that doesn't stop our feelings of love. Which is a good thing. If our love could be turned off that easily - then it really isn't love. So that shows how strong we have been. We have been / are able - to love.
Thank you @utopia. True what you say about having different experiences and situations. I had suffered horrific abuse when young and the emotionally detachment just happened (survival). Yes a coping mechanism - a good way of describing it.
Because of past abuse I know that not all have good intentions, some even like to wound for kicks. My innocence was taken but not my spirit or capacity to love now. It was taken when I was young. I had to learn to love (if that makes sense). I had no role model and was cold when young knowing no better. Bad start to life but it did not define me thank goodness. But having been on both sides of the fence I know people's ugly side too. And will protect others from it if possible. Sometimes I may be too cautious perhaps
Now I love deeply most people I meet - I just don't get attached until I am sure they need me as much, care as much for me and my welfare as I do for them. That's my way of coping. There is love of people in general, goodwill - and then there are special loves that form special bonds with only but a few. And the latter have to earn and nurture that as I do with them. Thats how I weed out the thorns from the roses. That's my world.
You are so strong my friend, your love limitless. Any one would be honoured to call you friend 💕🌹(and yes if anyone hurts your precious heart I would like to kick their ass 😎)
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