not feeling good

I am so sorry to hear that @BlueBay It is very sad news for you my friend.

We both know that our emotions can get away from us. It is a real balancing act - and sometimes the scales get tipped very quickly in one direction. It is hard to understand the why - but it trying to understand sometimes can make it worse. You have these emotions because you are a caring and compassionate person. You feel things deeply and it comes out in your emotions. Recognise that it is ok to 'feel' and go with your emotions for now. If you need to talk about the way you are feeling I am here. If you just need to snuggle up with a cup of tea and a blanket on the couch and cry - then do that too. This will pass and you find the joy again - but for now - just sit with what you are feeling.

Hugs and love - here if you need!

Zoe

@BlueBay You don't need to be good company my friend but do what you need to do to get through this tonight.

...And you do deserve to be happy!!! We both do - we have just been hurt too many times to expect anything different - I know you understand this!

but we do deserve happiness - it is just a longer road for us than some beacuse we don''t believe in ourselves or our own worth - that is why I will continue to be here for you because I believe in YOU and will hold you up when you can't hold yourself up, I will walk beside you when you need company, and I will tell you everyday that you matter.

Love you my friend and believe in you so much

Zoe

Hi @BlueBay

That is a totally natural response to feel sad when hearing of such tragic news. I would only be concerned if you felt that way without reason. Empathising is a strength, as long as we don't convince ourselves we are depressed again.

You have only begun to feel better and this will also take "your mind time to get use to". When our minds have been use to feeling depressed scared and angry for some time and/or depending on others for awhile, it can trick us into panicking looking for a reason to be depressed again. So don't be sad, angry or emotional. You just need time to get use to feeling okay again (with the exception of the bad days we all endure). Getting use to putting your focus back on the good/positive things again so these emotions don't overwhelm or give into the old way of thinking which keeps us depressed (I battle this all the time to keep afloat). Keep thinking of the good times ahead. 🙂

As I said my friend @BlueBay - that is natural to feel sad when hearing such news. So no need to feel afraid of your emotions slipping back down so quickly, to be scared of a relapse. Does not mean you are depressed or unworthy of feeling happiness. When we feel empathy for those who have died or suffered cancer it's not about us. I have to remind myself about this to keep strong for my husband who does have cancer. Have a good night 😴

@BlueBay

At least you are making many and varied plans that are life giving.

Sometimes our feelings drag behind.

It took me a long time to be able to accept that I had good feelings.

I had to have a peach tree cut down .. I was very sad about it, but sometimes .. ya gotta do wot ya gotta do.

Cheers Apple

@BlueBay What has huff and puff done to make you so angry tonight?