not feeling good

Sounds like you’re having a nice day @Gazza75 enjoy the gym. 😊

Hi @Gazza75 @Shaz51 @Owlunar @Ali11 @Meowmy and others passing by 😊

in bed crying and all I can see is the amount of money left in account. I don’t know how to live. I always get anxious to tell hubby because he cracks it and I then feel guilty that there’s nothing left Because that’s how he makes me feel.

I’m so emotional this morning.

Seeing my dietitian this morning - wonder what he’ll say tiday.

Bright side is seeing the wiggles this afternoon with my daughter and granddaughter. Can’t wait to see her face when she sees them.

My son is coming down for dinner tonight after wirk. And youngest son wants to make home made lasagna sheets. Looks like I’ll be helping him this morning!!!

i wish you all a bright day in whatever you do today ❤️❤️

Hi @BlueBay , I'm sorry about the money troubles and the drama its causing you. It's like deja vu. Try not to work yourself up over it to much. I know its hard not to when you have to make ends meet. Fingers crossed your appointment with the dietician goes alright. Mine is very helpful, but, its hard to put everything into practice for Me. She makes everything sound so easy to do.

I nearly forgot you were off to the wiggles, I really hope you have a great time there with your family. You sound like a real wiz in the kitchen. Home made lasagna sheets, good for you. I bet your lasagna is good eating! Your cooking thread has had a lot of people getting involved which is awesome 🙂

Maybe skip the discussion with hubby, it sounds like he should be aware of the situation financially.

Lots of hugs

Oh not again @BlueBay

You know why he does this I think - or rather - I think I know why he does

He doesn't want to take the blame for not earning more himself and maybe he can't seeing as he has arthritis - but it's not fair to blame you for his short-fall - it's actually the way things are - not anyone's fault - but darn - it's doesn't need to crack it everytime cash is short -

And you don't need to take it on either - your self-blame is self-sabotage - you already know this - your mind goes there because it's a bad habit and there is no need for blaming yourself either

Your MI is not your fault either - you are going to work and even had an extra shift this week - you are doing your best and that is all anyone can do - their best -

Of course it's frustrating - being short of cash is rotten and it seems you guys are living responsibly - what more can you do?

How do dealing with him cracking it is something to talk to your therapist about - how do you deal with it with getting emotional - and he needs this too so he can see someone at work free - perhaps you can talk with her about how to make him see this

He needs the help as much as you do - and you are working on loads of stuff - and he isn't - and he could do better

I'm sorry this is so hard for you

Dec

btw - enjoy your afternoon with the Wiggles and your girls - that should be great

Hi @Owlunar @Gazza75

thanks for your support. I don’t know what to think anymore. Not sure I wznt this life. 😢

it just shits me that I gave to do everything reg finances. I wish he was a different man who could take over. But we’ve had this discussion many times over the years. In one ear and out the other. So I plod along. But for how long I don’t know.

I saw my dietitian this morning. He was happy with the way I’m going except the part where I told him about hubbys negative comments about me eating “the wrong food”. He said I need to let him know each time he says something And hopefully he’ll get it.

Not sure if he’ll ever get it.

He wants me to walk every day snd have more protein in every meal. I’m not having enough protein.

Reg weighing myself daily - that’s still a huge problem for me. I need to see the numbers. But he said there’s no need for thst. He said he will help me yo eventually weigh myself once a month. I replied “are you serious “

he also said that I sm too hard on myself snd I should be happy with things. But as usual I’m not giving myself credit. Why? Maybe because I fear of failure and criticism.

We went to the wiggles concert and it was so good. They started off when I took my kids to their first concert. That was 27 years ago. And to think I would agsin go with my daughter and granddaughter. I knew all the songs cause there on at home every single day.

Got home before snd hrlped my youngest make the lasagna. The home made sheets look good. Let’s hope it tastes nice!!!

now waiting fir older son to come for dinner.

I hope you are both well.

Hi also to @Shaz51 @Ali11 @Meowmy @Former-Member @Razzle ❤️❤️❤️

We're so sorry to hear about your finances @BlueBay, have you thought about getting in touch with a financial counsellor?

That's some positive news about the dietician. Scales can be totally evil, and it's best to take the advice of not focusing on those numbers. The Wiggles sounds like it was fun! Is that with the original line up?

@Ali11

Been there done that with a financial counsellor. There’s nit enough money to the amount of outgoings.

I’m stressed very depressed and emotional. I’ve had to cancel my appt with my regular psychologist who charges me $110. It was next week and I can’t affird to go.

So now I have no psychologist until September. I’m not going to be able to live without support for that long.

Life sucks and I’m stressing so much.

Everything happens all at once.

I’ve just got so much in my head.

@Owlunar @Shaz51 @Gazza75 @Meowmy

@BlueBay Sorry I am not much help. I am going very bad at the moment. Hope you find a way to get what you need in support.

Sorry I tagged you when you’re not coping @Meowmy

@BlueBay That is alright. We understand what each other is going through. Having no money is bad. Relationship is hard and stressful I understand. Not having psychologist to talk to also sucks. Hope you can work it out with hubby and may be kids, see if they can help financially. Relationship is hard. We can’t change them. We can only change ourselves to cope better. Hope you find something soothing tonight. That is for both of us.