not feeling good

Hi @BlueBay

I'm SO glad you are feeling calm. ENJOY IT. Be present.

The more you worry about crashing, the closer you bring it to reality.

Notice your sense of calm, perhaps think about what got you there (so you can use those strategies to bring about calmness in the future) and make the most of the calmness 🙂

Hope to see you at Friday Feast tonight

Hello @BlueBay @NikNik @Decadian @utopia @Change123

I understand what you mean and have the same experiences.

In fact I have been as bad as, I am happy, how long is this going to last??? when is thebubble going to burst.

this is ridiculous people will think when reading this unless they have experienced external catastrophes, that keep on coming.

My doctor has explained to me and this is what helps me at the moment, I hope it gives you some relief:

depression: fear of the past

anxiety: fear of the future

now: breathe (this is my little addition)

play around with it and come up with your own words. i do find it helps for a while. i then i say it again.

thinking of you xxxxx

@BlueBay

meant to add we are going through inspection by appointment only and it is a nightmare to get ready so completely empathise.

i tell myself now well this is a home not a show house.

"My doctor has explained to me and this is what helps me at the moment, I hope it gives you some relief:

depression: fear of the past

anxiety: fear of the future

now: breathe (this is my little addition)"

I love this @Former-Member

@BlueBay .... you are receiving compassion from your new therapist and it is feeding self-compassion in you ... it is bringing everything else you have been learning together for you, and you are practicing balance .... remember what it feels like, as @NikNik said ... to find your way back here when the balance gets upset, to reapply self-compassion again and again, every day.

💗💕🐚

Hi @BlueBay

The calm before the storm - I know about that - so enjoy it while it lasts - and being aware that the mat can be pulled out from under you is okay - just know it might happen and put it on the back burner

I expect it will be a strange feeling when that house is out of your life and you are out of the house - moving house is very high on the list of stressful things that can happen to us or we have happen - It's a culture shock and perfectly normal so remember that bit - whatever you feel is perfectly normal

You have come such a long way - Easter is late this year - but I do remember the first time I replied to one of your posts - just after Easter - and you were so scattered and shattered then - wow - you did not know if you were coming or going

But now - I think I am not alone in noticing that you have been growing through all the chaos of the past nearly 10 months -

One day at a time, you can't eat the whole plateful so one bite at a time, move your possessions one handful at a time and bitznpiecez -

Hugs

Dec