not feeling good

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WTG @BlueBay ..... woo-hoo .... 🤗💕

That sounds like a good decision @BlueBay. Having that reminder in your house is not something that you need, particularly when you are going to have a fresh start! Also in regards to your question about does this make you a bad person-absolutely not! You need to do what is best for you and it sounds like having these frames brings up emotions for you that arent at all helpful. This does not make you a bad person.

In regards to you previous post:

I'm glad that you have some clarity around what you want this time around. Even though the last time you had contact with your parents was painful, it sounds like out of that situation you learnt the consequences and how to protect yourself both as a child and an adult (which makes perfect sense). I'm sorry that it took that experience for you to get to this place, but the learning is valuable for you now in this new situation.

I can completely understand where you are coming from in regards to having that rational mind and emotional mind about whether your mum will be able to apologise to you. Of course your emotional mind is wanting and hoping for an apology from her. Your mum telling you that you betrayed the family are incredibly hurtful and most of all completely untrue. Being considered the "dumb, stupid ones" in comparison to her would also be incredibly hard. For this you do deserve an apology at the very least. I do truly wish that this is something she will be capable of at some point. Your rational mind saying that she may never apologise given her past behaviour in believing she is always right does make this hard. You may be right in this and it may be important to also consider what you may do should you not get an apology.

I am glad to hear that you are clear in your mind about some boundaries if you were to see your mum again. Getting something together in your mind for if/when you are in contact with your mum is a great starting point. Also for what you want to say to your dad, from what I've read here I can really hear that you miss him and that he is important to you. Do you have any ideas on what you might like to say? I'm happy to brainstorm it out with you if you need.

I'll be back in on Monday morning and will respond to you then. I hope you have a restful and easy going weekend as much as possible

Hi @Former-Member

thank you for replying, i will have a think abouyt my dad and what to say to him. it will be a bit more harder to know what to say. i need the weekend to think about it.

on monday i am also goiong to see myu psych with my hubby, it is the first time that hubby will meet my new psych. hopefully it will be a good session.

chat on monday. thanks for helpingn me Rockpool, i really appreciate your help 🙂

WTG @BlueBay ..... woo-hoo .... 🤗💕 very proud of you my awesome friend xx

WTG @BlueBay

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Hi @Owlunar@Shaz51@Former-Member@utopia@Faith-and-Hope@outlander and others I have juist forgotten (sorry) 🙂

I have a terrible headache this morning. I have my monthly and I feel crap.

I slept so much last night. Went to bed at 8pm and slept all night till 6am. Got up early to set up for garage sale. Sold our bed room suite through facebook and the guy came to pick up this morning. Garage sale is pretty quiet only sold one item. not worth having. all the effort of sorting out stuff, putting outside and getting up early for nothing.

and now it's cold and my asthma is terrible. i think i will do a little bit more and then stay inside with the heater on and knit.

i cant stay outside with my asthma and headache. otherwise i will end up in hospittal. and hubby knows that's what happens.