I don’t like feeling obliged to explain

Hi @creative_writer

Are you overhinking and judging her?

The question if you are getting license soon may just be that.

Some jobs can also use drivers.

So that is common.

Not sure how you conclude "almost like....." That may be an assumption based on what you think she is thinking.

Please do not think all questions have alterior motives. Some are just questions.

Some jobs are clear they want workers with licenses.

I think you overthinking, as we do at times, is not helping you. It may make you anxious.

The driving question is fair. The next placement if accepted is closer and near public transport.

Please focus on the good things.

Hi @creative_writer

I agree it is not about her.

The part about her is your notion she was or will judge you if you extend health matters.

You are right.

This is about you.

What will you gain by saying more?

Car: I say many people use public transport and survive. I would not with what l do. If you say it is laziness and it is a mission you want to achieve, i encourage you to reach that goal. It may take a few attempts. You will be anxious as we all were. But the effort is a calculated risk worth some stress. I prefer to be a bit stressed than over over confident.

I encourage you to do things bit by bit.

Maybe Focus on placements with public transport. That will open opportunities

Hi @creative_writer

I think other "normal" people break tasks down to small achievable tasks.

I do that.

When our to do list is everythjng we need to do, it is too exhausting.

And we need to allow some plans to change as circumstances do.

I do not want to upset you.

I want you to try one or two things at a time.

Forget about car now.

There sounds like an opportunity to do placements.

I disagree normal people do it all at once.

I also battle with "normal"

People set tasks. Prime minister does not run the whole country. They have many many people working on the To Do List

We all have plus and minus things.

What is your priority?

Maybe what are your top two?

How long will they take?

Are they achievable?

I know you are capable. I sense you are overloading your thinking setting huge goals in short amount of time.

They say some good books take Years to write one.

Hi @creative_writer

Who are the peers you refer too?

I feel you have dug such a deep hole you have lost any notion of your successes.

I sit here some days at 8.00am. At 5.00pm i think l will go home now.

And l did nothing all day.

Other days I am productive

Why are you so hard on yourself and expect so much from you? It sounds unrealistic what you want to achieve in a short time only because you are comparing yourself with everyone.

I hear achievements from you.

But you say not as much as others.

Only one person wins a race (generally)

The remaining 5, 10, 20 do not give up.

Many aim for a Personal Best. They just want to improve. We are not all winners of the race but we try and we improve.

You cannot focus so much on others performance and you really do not know what others are thinking unless they tell you.

Please focus on your Personal Best.

There will always be soneone better and someone not as good.

Lower the post. Get over one hurdle at a time in a time that suits you.

You can do it.

Shift your focus to results

Hi @creative_writer

I agree.

Many on the forum are battling.

Get on with things.

A slow journey forward is progress.

Even snails reach their destinations.

Our issues make us. We do not let them break us!