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Socialising for Beginners

Socialising for Beginners

Thanks for the encouragement @Jynx
I put it in the Looking After Ourselves section as I believe the forums social spaces do a good job, of allowing the online community to get together in various social ways. I am more interested in working out or working through real life socialising experiences. Where we do not have the protections offered by anonymous online interactions.
Socialising for grown ups who have been isolated and are trying to re-enter general community groups or just trying to meet people is no easy feat. Its more difficult than for children and puppies as we usually have a lot more baggage, whatever that may mean.
From the online dictionary for a start:
verb: socialise
1.
participate in social activities; mix socially with others.
"guests can socialize in a real holiday atmosphere"
2.
make (someone) behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.
"newcomers are socialized into orthodox ways"
Similar words:
interact
converse
be sociable
mix
mingle
get together
meet
Seems to require more than simple social skills training.
I started one therapeutic relationship with that as my main goal. I knew I had limits and was willing to learn, but she was not a great a teacher and eventually admitted it was not her strength. I have accepted that I am relatively introverted and there are advantages and safety with that, but also the yearning for human connection persists within me. So I do not really want to keep myself to myself. This forum has been a wonderful opportunity for me to try different things and meet people.

Just tagging a few who I feel may be interested, but this discussion is open ...

@Dimity @Historylover @Shaz51 @Owlunar @Eve7 @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope

@MDT @StuF @TAB @tonys

What do you think?

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That's helpful @Appleblossom re diversifying the social/emotional investments and the succession of moments overtaking rumination.

And doing rather than being the vocation @MDT... a lesson learned in retrospect for me.

@tonys I'm not sure if I've ever had the chance to say I love and admire your lyrical stories. Thankyou for acknowledging my tag.

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It is @tyme
But fortunately like any muscle, just gotta start

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And maybe that's why we need each other 🙂 Everyone in the same boat - All trying to exercise the socialising muscle... God help us... I wonder what we look like from above? Some unco group banging into each other? @MDT

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I keep straining my socializing muscles, @tyme, then I need time out to recover.

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Did you do your socialising warm ups? e.g. breathing, positive self talk? @Historylover LOL

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it's hard to get that muscle moving after having it dormant for a while, eh? ---- sure is @tyme

Hello @Dimity , @MDT , @Historylover , @Appleblossom , @Owlunar

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Hello @Shaz51 glad to see you. I'm hoping it's like my exercises and I discover muscles I never knew I had @tyme @MDT @Historylover

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Actually, I think that's what happened to me @Dimity . After trauma, I forgot these muscles existed until people and communities helped me find them again! All the best @Dimity !

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Thanks @tyme . Already the forums have been teaching me what to ask for in the way of support. And I've been paying it forward IRL. So I live in hope.

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way to go my awesome friend @Dimity About the forums have been teaching me what to ask for in the way of support

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