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Socialising for Beginners

Socialising for Beginners

Thanks for the encouragement @Jynx
I put it in the Looking After Ourselves section as I believe the forums social spaces do a good job, of allowing the online community to get together in various social ways. I am more interested in working out or working through real life socialising experiences. Where we do not have the protections offered by anonymous online interactions.
Socialising for grown ups who have been isolated and are trying to re-enter general community groups or just trying to meet people is no easy feat. Its more difficult than for children and puppies as we usually have a lot more baggage, whatever that may mean.
From the online dictionary for a start:
verb: socialise
1.
participate in social activities; mix socially with others.
"guests can socialize in a real holiday atmosphere"
2.
make (someone) behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.
"newcomers are socialized into orthodox ways"
Similar words:
interact
converse
be sociable
mix
mingle
get together
meet
Seems to require more than simple social skills training.
I started one therapeutic relationship with that as my main goal. I knew I had limits and was willing to learn, but she was not a great a teacher and eventually admitted it was not her strength. I have accepted that I am relatively introverted and there are advantages and safety with that, but also the yearning for human connection persists within me. So I do not really want to keep myself to myself. This forum has been a wonderful opportunity for me to try different things and meet people.

Just tagging a few who I feel may be interested, but this discussion is open ...

@Dimity @Historylover @Shaz51 @Owlunar @Eve7 @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope

@MDT @StuF @TAB @tonys

What do you think?

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Thank you @Shaz51 ❤️ I'm about to hop off forums, but I might see you later at the Peer Group Chat. Thanks for involving me in this thread x

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ok see you soon @amber22

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May be he finds a soothing comfort in the rhythmic click of you knitting needles, and you find comfort in his hands thumbing through the sports page or some old novel. If its peaceful and it doesnt feel like an empty home occupied by vacant eyes, then mate I gotta tell you, Your doing alright. Till she passed, my wife and I were two old, 'yes dear no dearest' . . . slippers, Yes maybe socialising could have been way better for us.

We'll never know. we never felt the need to look.

I think you are in the centre of your circle and you've a better hand the reigns than you may realize. . . .

Constant fine tuning, A human compulsion. I think Its good you always are searching for that elusive twinkle in other windows, and a warm home behind yours. . .

tonys m b 1

@Appleblossom nearly for got to tag you

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https://youtu.be/5Dd87truWl8

@tonys @Appleblossom .. As Henry (the erstwhile Poet) says .. who needs love .. jk lol

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@TAB Thanks mate, so I clicked the you tube. and spilled my wine all over myself laughing so much.

I thought I was a bit Left of centre, but you could just be the find of my century.

crazy stuff mate. I'm of to bet but another mail box cracker . . . one day please.

Stay safe mate tonys moon base 1

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.. ha ha ha lol @tonys well done .. my work here is done .. poof ! (pulls cape over face and disappears in puff of smoke ..)

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@Shaz51 @Owlunar @amber22 and all ...

@TAB Had to look up the lyrics and meaning of the song ..lol apparently it was banned ... and is about a bartender and sailor talking in a tavern ??

Cheered up @tonys

while he was also talking about knitting needles ....

wow we are covering a lot of social variety in a few posts. Sane is Amazing!

Context is everything.

Think we are getting into Socialising Intermediate.

Had a great day with a lady driving a ute, put water and mulch on 2 of my gardens and a few chats. Got lots done and had FUN! I do not usually separate work and fun, as sometimes they go together and sometimes going out and trying to find friends has been far more painful than work, anyday. But I am getting there. Had a shower. Going out tonight with a different bunch to make music.

Thx Guys

WTG APPLE

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..er I had no idea @Appleblossom think everyone makes their own version re lyrics.. @tonys mb 1

https://youtu.be/2PAwKy2L9Mk

there is Iggy and Stooges version 1976 cant put on here re lyrics

"People also ask
What is the meaning of the song Louie Louie?


So, there you have it, the most widely banned song of the early rock 'n' roll era. And what was it all about? A first-person perspective lament of a Jamaican tavern patron talking to his bartender named Louie about how much he misses his girlfriend while he's away at sea. That's about it.6 Oct 2018

"Louie Louie": The most vile and vulgar song of all time"

https://youtu.be/xKt75jUuKJY

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Yep @TAB thats wot I red.

Thank god the link was short cos I prefer shredded cheese to ... guitar ... each to his own I guess.

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@TAB @Appleblossom Well hi to you both. Tab I will laugh at anything, I'm known round these parts for a black sense of humour and a bellow that arouses my bull. But timing, goes a long way, and tab, that was perfect. At 2 am, I'm off with the fairy's, Pow, right in the kisser. . !

triple word score to you, fella.

Apple blossom. I too had a day with my new gardener. Real alternate type, a rainbow girl.

Got a good feeling we'll be mates. Have a great night out mate.

To both of you villains, have a great weekend, get arrested, raise some dust, and get high on life, and i hope to hear from you guys soon

very best wishes, tonys moonbase one

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