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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:05 pm AEST

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Yes the NUM and my team leader both know about it @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:08 pm AEST

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ok @Birdofparadise8 well as they are both aware i think it would be a good idea to speak to them again. ask to be taken off shifts shes working. youll have to be more open about how her actions are making you feel. its not easy but if you like the job then its worth speaking up. youll probably find itll help your mental health to be in an environment where you feel ok

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:10 pm AEST

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What tell them I'm suicidal @outlander and a contributing factor is working with this person?

I can't just swap my shift it's not that easy.

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outlanderSenior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:14 pm AEST

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actually workplaces can swap your shifts @Birdofparadise8 every workplace can make accomodations. whoever makes the rosters is able to put you onto other shifts that dont involve her working with you. it might mean a change of regular days etc but it means they have acomodated your needs and taken you off those shifts.

no you dont have to tell them your suicidal. but you can say that her actions are really affecting you, your ability to work, your strugling to come to work because your becoming to anxious. struggling to concentrate because your always on edge and afraid.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:17 pm AEST

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Yeah, I know it's just hard when I'm new. I don't want to make a fuss and especially after taking a month off with being in hospital and then going back home @outlander.

Maybe I'll see.

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outlanderSenior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:19 pm AEST

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either that find another job @Birdofparadise8 staying in a workplace that causes more damage to your mental health isnt worth it

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:22 pm AEST

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Yeah, I know. I've been looking, but I like the job and the hours. I'm permanent two shifts a week which fits in really well with uni three days a week @outlander.

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outlanderSenior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:23 pm AEST

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then it is worth speaking to HR about whats happening @Birdofparadise8 being only 2 shifts a week im fairly sure they can switch your shifts around so that your not on the same as that specific co-worker

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:25 pm AEST

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I'll talk to my team leader on Wednesday @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor17 July 2023, 8:26 pm AEST

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sounds like a good idea @Birdofparadise8

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