Not Coping

Cry @outlander that sounds fun.

I need to cook dinner for tomorrow, and then for work, I'll make the spinach and riccota pasta bake and the chicken and fried rice @outlander.

I hope I won't ruminate on this more with work and my SI.

hahaha I would hope so since I was training in school for four years to be a chef @outlander I did my cert II in kitchen operations, but had a change of heart.

Hi @Birdofparadise8 I can see that it has not been an easy road for you lately but I was wondering if you could re-frame your thinking in this present moment to just think about the next hour. Sometimes what we expect (or have been living) becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy ie. if we expect things to not be good then our brains automatically take us to that place. If we can plan a couple of things that we know that we enjoy when those thoughts start developing then we can often by-pass that thinking and allow ourselves to just be in that moment. What do you think?

Hi @Zoe7

Mmm, I wouldn't say reframing my thoughts is a strong suit of mine. I struggle quite a bit with it. However, I guess I could focus on tonight and what I'm doing tomorrow.

In saying that, I have also been working with this coworker for the past few weeks. There is no chance she won't be rude or passive-aggressive I feel it's deep in her and would be hard for her to stop. I know what she is like and how she acts.

Sorry to shoot that down. Thank you, though. I appreciate it.

I work with a similar type of person @Birdofparadise8 and it makes work difficult - but not impossible. I live by the rule that I continue to be nice and their issues are theirs. It makes the rude and disrespectful stuff wash over me - you can only be your best self and let them be what they want to be. I know it does not always make life easier but staying true to yourself and letting the other person be whoever they are is key.