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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 July 2023, 8:55 pm AEST

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thats why you need to work with your psychologists and also use your own ways to keep yourself safe.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor16 July 2023, 8:59 pm AEST

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Mmm, I guess @outlander

Why does everything have to be so messy.

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tymeModerator16 July 2023, 9:02 pm AEST

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Hormonal changes affected me too @Birdofparadise8 . I had my hormones tested and thyroid too, just to make sure everything was okay.

In the end, I was put on medication to make it easier to predict changes and work with them.

Meds can be tricky to balance in general.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:06 pm AEST

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I don't think it's hormones. My GP did some blood test a couple months ago and they were all fine @tyme

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:07 pm AEST

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yes im hearing you @Birdofparadise8 im in a similar position right now. you can only do your best

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:15 pm AEST

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Are you feeling suicidal as well, @outlander? I'm sorry it's so hard.

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:20 pm AEST

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yes i experience it all the time as well as someone who self harms @Birdofparadise8 though i have gotten alot better at managing that even if it does occassionally happen.

i have a long history of self harm, hospital admissions for mental health reasons and an attempt in the past. ive aimed to learn to live a better life and move forward. its why i want to help others grow and try and get past tough times

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:24 pm AEST

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Is that what happened yesterday SH?

I understand I'm trying to cope with my own SH. The thoughts are endless.

I didn't know you experienced this I'm sorry. You've been so nice to me over the past few days @outlander.

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:34 pm AEST

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yes @Birdofparadise8 i couldnt control my sh yesterday but before that i had it under control for close to 4 months and before that i didnt sh for nearly a year. i cant really go into the depths of how bad my sh was but it was rather extreme in some cases and it took alot of work for me to even go even half a day without self harming so to reach a year was a massive milstone then again 4 months. ive obviously broken that record but im working on getting that back.

i als go through this without speaking to parents about it as well. so iunderstand that. as well as endless medications and treatments. traumatic events are also in there too.

if you feel like you cant keep yourself safe then i urge you to go to the hospital or reach out to someone.

im happy to talk to you, share experiences and hopefully help in some way.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:41 pm AEST

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We are on a similar timeline in a way. I only started SHing last year, but I stopped for about three months and hadn't thought of it for a while. They have crept their way forward. I've been managing to cope with them the past few days, but I'm not sure how much longer I can.

I'm sorry that was the case for you it's a tricky one SH is oddly addictive and hard to stop, @outlander.

Do you live with your parents? Can I ask do they know about your struggles or not?

I told mine I was in the hospital and that was the hardest thing I have ever done. I couldn't stop sobbing the whole time. They don't know that things have got bad again, though.

Let me know if I'm asking too many questions and I can shut up.

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