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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:48 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8 i have been SH for a number of years. im just learning to control it.
i was once told by a therapist that the more you self harm, the more addicting it can become and the more you need to do it to get the same benefits. its like a drug. you become immune to it so you feel you need to do it more and more. the longer you can resist it no matter how hard it is the better it is.

no i dont live with my parent. (i only have one) my home situation is quite complex in that i care for a family member so i live with that family member in order to care for them around my working hours..

the family sort of know about my struggles but also not really. during one of my hospital admissions and after my attempt it ruined my relationship because they dont understand mental health and theyre abit older in fashion where they often feel like the best option is to just get over it. since then we dont have a good relationship and i hide everything really but i can see that they are becoming more supportive towards my siblings and are more accepting of their struggles even if our relationship is now strained. so now everything is hidden

if you have a good relationship with your family it might be a good time to speak to them. if your not comfortable telling them about the SI/SH then mayeb start small by letting them know your struggling a fair bit again.

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:50 pm AEST

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you can ask me questions. ill try my best to answer anything that might help you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:54 pm AEST

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Ah, okay family can really suck @outlander

I'm sorry that you have had a falling out with them. I hope with time, it gets better.

I only tell them on a need-to-know basis. I didn't tell them I was in the hospital till like a week later.

I have my psych, KHL, GP and here that will have to be enough till my aunt comes back.

Such bad timing with them going on Tuesday.

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tymeModerator16 July 2023, 9:55 pm AEST

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I'll be logging off shortly, but wanted to pop by to acknowledge the robust conversation you are having here. @outlander @Birdofparadise8 . It has been so helpful for me (and most likely for many others) to read.

Have a good evening, and I'll catch you later in the week 🙂

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor16 July 2023, 9:55 pm AEST

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@tyme will you be back on Thursday? If so can we talk once I finish work? I'll be done at 7:30, and hopefully, can talk during my break.

I hope you have a good week.

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 July 2023, 10:03 pm AEST

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its good that you have supports and your aunt as well @Birdofparadise8 try and keep those in place.

sometimes timing sucks and doesnt work in our favour.

do you think your ok enough to speak to your parents a little bit? it doesnt have to be all the nitty gritty details but just enough for them to give them the chance to be apart of your support system?
no pressure but just a suggestion

@tyme you have been an amazing support here

your story would also be inspiring others