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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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tymeModerator

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@creative_writer , are you at an asian restaurant? Hope you enjoy your spring rolls.

As for the trauma, I'm hearing you. It is such a challenge to wade through. Yet you should always remember that abuse is NOT on. It was NOT your fault.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@Shaz51 and @Birdofparadise8 I am here sitting with you both 💖. It’s hard to see loved ones struggling.

@tyme I know it wasn’t my fault. But it shouldn’t have happened. I feel a sense of loss.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@tyme yes at an Asian restaurant 🙂 .

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Yeah, thank you @tyme nothing I can do till my mum gets back with the information I hate not being in the loop.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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It is really hard @creative_writer I was having a not so bad day now I am all sad thinking about her and what could happen and now I am spiralling thinking about myself which won't help anyone.

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tymeModerator

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Do you think a nursing home will provide her the care she needs at this time @Birdofparadise8 ?

Hugs to you too.

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tymeModerator

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@Birdofparadise8 , it's okay to be sad. That is natural, particularly if you had a close relationship with her. I hear that.

Please don't feel that you feeling sad now is going to 'affect' others. If anything, it reminds us that you are human. You have feelings. You feel pain. You feel hurt. Yet you can also feel happiness. You can feel contentment. You can feel satisfaction.

We care. We are here for you.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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I am not sure. She was just starting to get better after being in ICU and the last operation. I suppose I will have to wait and see what my mum and the others come up with @tyme

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8 it’s hard moving away from loved ones even if they are doing well, it’s even harder when a loved one is struggling. It makes so much sense to feel low.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Thank you @creative_writer I don't know how I will cope if she dies I am barely holding it together about her needing a nursing home or if she could die on the operating table, or if she will come out of the operation incapacitated. I know I shouldn't make it about myself but I think this will just make me spiral into a bigger hole now.

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