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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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tymeModerator

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Waiting is certainly the hard part @Birdofparadise8 .

One of the main skills I learnt in mentalisation based therapy was to be okay sitting with not knowing. It understand and truly accept that IT IS OKAY not to know. And this was really a hard concept to come by, especially for me who likes to have everything organised and planned out.

I remember one therapist saying to me, "Your worrying won't change a single thing about the situation. Rather, it eats you up and that time can never be regained." This understanding really hit me. I knew my worrying wouldn't make a difference.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Yes so true @tyme thank you

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tymeModerator

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My experiences have really wisened me up... @Birdofparadise8 .

By the end of group therapy, I was known as 'the wise owl' LOL...

I used to be so impulsive, erratic and rash with my emotions and actions.... now, I've learnt to get things done efficiently, but to also pace myself.

I think these are life skills people learn with life experiences.

At this time, I still can't believe I am who I am today. I lived so long in a deep, dark hole, and never thought I'd get out.... I think I live each day in awe that I am alive - that is probably what keeps me going...

Don't get me wrong... I have plenty of 'crap' things happen... but I don't think I let it 'get to me' nowadays.

Also, working as a peer worker has really been so helpful to me too.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8 hon, I think we should be hopeful. The future is uncertain and unpredictable. And like @tyme said, worrying doesn’t change anything.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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My aunt just text me and she said they have booked a flight to come down tomorrow means it must be bad @creative_writer @tyme @Shaz51. sorry I am probably not listening to what you're saying now my brain is starting to spiral.

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tymeModerator

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Holding your hand @Birdofparadise8 . Breathe.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Holding your other hand @Birdofparadise8 with @tyme

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Thank you, @tyme @Shaz51 I am taking some deep breaths right now waiting to hear from my mum I hope she comes home soon to tell my dad and me more.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8 take your time to respond and process things. It’s okay if none of it makes sense.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Yeah I guess so right now I am just looking up some leotards for ballet class for when I move to distract me @creative_writer @Shaz51 @tyme

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