I can’t cope

I kinda get it @Jynx. There’s a whole other world out there.

I do get that there would be a lot of MH issues amongst the community. It would be hard to have to work to gain acceptance.

I struggle as I get judged all the time. ‘Are you gay? Is that why you don’t have a boyfriend’ ‘What’s wrong with you, you should be married by now’ ‘you know it’s too late to have kids now’ ‘do you never want to be happily married’ ‘can even get a chick’ the list goes on.

I went to the last Kylie concert when she was in Australia. My friend was messaging her husband while we were sitting there waiting. She text ‘everyone here is gay’ he sent back. ‘Captain will fit in well then’. I was kinda pissed off. Just the assumption. But then I did reject him a couple of years ago when his wife was at work.

Sorry that was a bit of a ramble

Haha as if I don't get stuck into rambles allllll the time @Captain24 😋

Yeah that's really rough, like there's this underlying assumption that because you haven't found a cishet relationship, you automatically must be gay. Which is bi and ace erasure right there! I'm sorry you've had to deal with that, how crappy.

Also wild that you've had to reject this guy when he was already married! That put you in an awkward spot I bet. And some folks who have a fragile ego will get it into their heads that if they got rejected, it must be cos the person is gay, nothing to do with them. Ugh.

I guess I will hear it a lot more as I’m not ain an hurry for a relationship, if ever. @Jynx I also hear how my MH would be better if I had a man in my life.

It was awkward as it was my friend’s husband. I’ve been called a lot of names over the years most of them true but I have never been with a friend’s partner.

I do have one boundary 😜

@Captain24 ugh, yeah sure that's how it works - we are all obliged to find our one true love in order to feel happy and fulfilled 😒 Relationships are indeed important, but relationships look different for different people, and friendships are just as important and fulfilling as romantic/sexual relationships. If I wasn't logging off soon, I could end up ranting about this a fair bit longer lol.

Good on you! You've got a good solid value system, I've always thought so.

I hope you can get off to sleep okay tonight hun, and as always you can tag @moderator if you need some company. I'll chat to you next week, be gentle and kind to yourself darlin, you're an amazing person even when your brain tries to argue otherwise. Huggles 💜😊🫂

Thank you so much for tonight @Jynx. You have helped and guided me immensely tonight. Even if I started the night off rocky for you. Your support has gotten me through tonight calmly and relatively safely. I haven't been able to say that for a couple of nights.

Thank you and goodnight. Have a good few days.

@Captain24 😍😊😘💜

Hi @Captain24 , I hope you don't leave...

I am also not willing to change my eating habits, so you have my empathy.

I'm sorry you had such an awful day on Thursday. You definitely don't deserve anything bad.

It was very wrong of your mother to tell you to use your dad's health as a reason to not to in to hospital. 😢

I am thinking of you and hoping that the appt with your CM to tell your parents on Tuesday goes well... 🤞💙

Sorry @NatureLover. That was a lot for you to catch up on!

It’s been pretty rough few days. So far they are trying to convince me to stay.

My parents are pretty self-centred and only think of themselves. I can already hear the guilt trips and they don’t even know yet.

Im hoping she helps me. If not my GP has said they he will tell them. I see him on Wednesday.

Hope all is going ok for you.

I’m not sure what to do. So much going through my head

Hey @Captain24, nice to see you on the Forums today!

What are your plans for today? Is there something on your mind you would like to talk about with the community?

Take care

RiverSeal