I can’t cope

They are so cute. @Jynx Maybe not so much about the bladder…

Pix does this thing where she taps you on the leg and it gradually gets harder and faster. The claws really come out!

Haha omg I love it @Captain24 they just really know how to tug the heartstrings don't they!

Is Pix much of a talker? Like lots of little yips and stuff? My cats are very chatty

Nah Pix is pretty much just a barker. She barks at anything and everything. @Jynx But think Jett is going to be a talker. He is pretty vocal right now with his squeaky voice.

Haha aww so cute @Captain24! Is Jett going to puppy school at all?

Yeah. He has done 2 weeks got this coming week but he missed the final and graduation as we will be on holidays. @Jynx.

He is socialising with the people but not so much with the dogs. They are all a bit big. There’s a mastiff, German shepherd and border collie type breeds. Then a teeny tiny chihuahua so he is a bit overwhelmed.

@Captain24 aww dang, will he have to graduate another time? Gotta get that certificate! I've seen ones with their lil paw prints as a signature, so cute!

Oh I bet, poor thing haha. Or should I say, paw thing hehe.

You got a dog park or anything nearby to get some socialising in with er... dogs more his size?

Yeah. The vet nurse will probably sort that out but I will probably be in hospital for the next grad. @Jynx.

We have a dog park for small dogs, one for mixed and one for large dogs. I’ll take home out one afternoon and see if anyone is there.

I’ve got a question. Remember when we were talking about sexuality. Does that mean Im queer?

@Captain24 aww nice, hope you find some puppy pals!

Oh I forgot I was gonna make a thread! I will get around to it haha.

Well, I mean it's up to you really. The asexuality (or ace) spectrum is definitely included under the banner of LGBTQIA (some folks think the A stands for ally but it doesn't, it stands for asexual), but if you don't feel like you wanna identify as queer, that's so fine! Buuut for me, identifying as queer is how I found my community. It can be sooo relieving to be able to find others who can understand what our experiences are like. There is however still instances of ace erasure within the queer community, same as there is bi erasure, nonbinary erasure, etc. - whatever doesn't fit the mould of cis-normative and allo-normative ways of being queer (allosexual is just the opposite of asexual, someone who experiences sexual attraction).

I've found reddit to be a good spot for finding some community, plus lots of resources and memes too 😊 Here's the ace subreddit.

Wow.. that was a lot 😜 @Jynx.

So buy ‘erasure’ does that mean not accepted? Sorry for dumb questions. I would even know where to go to ask.

There isn't really much of a community here anyway. Obviously we have queer people but they don’t seem to have their own community. They are all just a part of the whole community. I think that makes sense.

The only dumb questions are the ones you don't ask @Captain24 I like to think! Always happy to provide some knowledge if I got it hehe.

Erasure is like... pretending that they don't exist. Like bi erasure is really common in films and tv - one example in Buffy for instance is that Willow is very happily dating Oz, then later on when she's with Tara she has a line where she says "Hello, gay now" implying she was never attracted to Oz (and even worse, that she somehow changed from straight to gay) rather than just saying 'I'm bisexual'.

Ace erasure is more that it's so rarely represented that people are surprised to learn that it exists at all! And there's some awful people who will think that an ace person just 'hasn't had good enough sex' or something horrible like that. So yeah, not just not accepted (though that is also an issue) but fully having our existence refused to even be acknowledged.

I think we're looking to change that, to create spaces that are specific to certain groups - so that all our lil queer folks have a space to feel safe and accepted. Cos unfortunately, being queer frequently goes hand in hand with having mental health struggles. Something about being targeted, discriminated against, ostracised, erased, and told that we're an affront to god, results in us having larger numbers represented in mh statistics, who could've guessed?