Trying makes it worse

Thanks @EternalFlower got a few smiles out of it 😸✅

Hi @EternalFlower is it still raining where you live? It is here.

Thanks for your understanding with lots of turmoil going on for me at home. It's all still 'yucky'. I am ok. The police coming over was very awkward. Things here are more intense than usual - each day comes with its own outcome/solution that I can feel at peace with. It's always unexpected how it turns out. I have support with my hm mum. She has been thru all of this before. I.e trying to get him help & figure out best solutions. She is getting elderly now & I try not to burden her.

The whole Mental health scope can be overwhelming & so complex.

Eg. Symptoms, professionals, funding, transient states, depth of issues. It's huge & confusing.

For the 'normal lay' person it is impossible to relate.

I'm glad I have his mum in my life because I know that she 'gets it' when words can't adequately express all tiny details & experiences.

My own family is entirely ignorant to mental health. They would not understand at all what a normal day looks like for me & my friend. i know they find it really hard to relate with me. But thats also nothing to do with my current life!

Of course, interacting with members on SANE, & you is easy (er) because we all kind of share that experience, even if they are not the same. I feel like lots of discussions on here talk about mental health with respect, & that's not something the general community always does, or understands how to do.

I really liked how you shared your psych suggestion of carrying two special objects with you all the time. (It's really generous & I feel like I'm getting free psych advice thru you😄 thx). I do have special jewellery that I never remove - I think your suggestion is also about creating intention. Is that right? Do you think the intention is to remind me I'm safe?

Maybe I will choose a scent?

Have you heard of caterpillar necklaces? I'm imagining they would be a fun fidget. I think i could buy steel beads off ebay & make my own for 1/2 the price. I read that they are a fave for kids with autism. The steel beads have smooth sensory feel. i cant imagine how parents would afford things. we have a special needs primary school nearby. maybe one day i will make a few and donate!

I read you are watching unsolved mysteries. I used to watch a show Disappeared. I liked using my best intuition powers to find out what happened, or I would study the story on Reddit. Those documentaries can be really interesting. Very sad. In a way- we are honouring the person. That's what I thought anyway.

I still think you sound like you are coping really well!!!💜 I was surprised that you said you are going to hospital maybe. Of course, it's fine - & a very smart decision for you if you know you are in that headspace. I support you, in whatever choice is safe for YOU.

I didn't realise I was nurturing my inner child. And, I liked how you described 'breaks everywhere - in communication.'

U R heaps smart😄 ( that's me talking in my Aussie okka accent) I really do appreciate your insights. Thanks.

(my ph battery crashed - on pc now)

hmm, i havent heard the expression trauma dumped before. Do you feel it in general? or were you discussing, venting specific issues? i know i have a real issue with feeling like im trauma dumping -even with professionals - on the other hand i welcome ppl to tell me their sad stories!! (within limits - i cant always/only deal with sadness. i need to do mindless fun things to keep a balance. really only tv, online shopping, making art) I wonder why its ok for me to be there for others, but apparently i dont have the same confidence that others are capable of being there for me. Maybe we feel like our issues are too 'extra.' It could go back to the complexities of mental health i was writing about ⬆ there somewhere!!

chat soon xx

Hello @Appleblossom you sound like a natural 're-greener' with the planting in your cul de sac. What a lovely neighborhood story xx

oh P.S @EternalFlower its ep 3 of ahs s11 tonight. ive been waiting all week...its so good .

Thanks for the tag @EternalFlower sitting with you my friend

Hello @maddison , @TAB , @Appleblossom

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@Appleblossom @TAB

I remember when I was having a hard time @maddison u wrote don't feel bad if u need to impulse shop, or sooth in other ways,

The timing was hilariously spot on, I'd just been impulse shopping!!I've bought tons of books this week, for no reason, just as a little rush!

today I bought a poetry collection called "drop bear" by a new Australian writer called Evelyn.

I heard trauma dumping via tiktok, a therapist shared that she hates when a client trauma dumps in the first session. Then many therapists and clients got angry and infuriated and responded why there is no trauma dumping in therapy, that's what it's for!! And some ppl even wrote they feel safe and glad if someone can share trauma with them. It see,s maybe we all do it sometimes? Maybe we need to?

I just saw AHS on B**ge....I think? We need!!!! @Former-Member I know u are also ahs obsessed?

@TAB I hope ur feeling OK this weekend, no sbs 32 obviously...hope ur smiling

@maddison I'm glad u liked the suggestion, I also have always subconsciously done this, he said some ppl wear an object on a chain or bracelet to have it for self soothing. I've always had jewellery that I touch throughout the day to feel safe.

I think intention is part of it as well, if someone gave it to u...or the object itself. Some pieces of jewellery are so solid, they do give a nice comforting feeling. I was surprised but happy by therapist gave more hippy woman advice, I'm always craving it. He's a psychiatrist and likes Sci fi movies so the expectations are sometimes for a more dry medical approach.

@Appleblossom hello ♥ I'm sending u a hug, hope ur weekend is starting off well. Is it a busy one?

Am ok smarty pants @EternalFlower b enzos fm dr helping h a ha

Sorry @TAB can't live it down!,

Hope they help u rest. Do u have much on for the weekend?

Had couple really good sleeps so far @EternalFlower No nothing planned here

That's great u got some rest @TAB

I had bit of an emotional day, finding it hard to unwind

I cleaned up a bit but not much on here either this weekend. Friend back next week...