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no choices

Gday im 45 just coming out of a divorce where my children have been systematically taken from me after being a stay at home dad for around seven years. My ex walked out claiming she was living a single life anyway . I kept the kids but started to struggle when she locked me out of our joint account . I was in shock and not copping . Her parents bought her a new house . I was struggling to keep food on the table and pay the bills when i decided maybe it would be best if the kids lived with there mum who had financial backing of her parents . Thats when the lawyer letters started claiming i was mentally unfit to see my children...anyway long story ive basically lost every thing now with a 20,000 debt and still dont get to see my kids ...the courts dont even seem to care about anything i have to say im constantly agreeingto her demands to at least get a supervised visit or phone call....now im giving up feeling like the system agrees with her and im better off out of the picture ...ive started saying goodbyes to friends and family ...my heart constantly aches for my boys ..ive missed so much already ...sick of crying and cant function...last ditch effort.

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Haha a bit of a poet appleblossom "hooroo to you" yeah well it is the season if ya cant help those in need what is there. ...mixed day today spoke to my youngest on the phone (eldest has gastro yuk) he told me all about the speach he made to the school at assembly and the ribbons he won at school sports for athletics and swimming was the fastest in hurdles (kinda ironic really) so proud but at the same time missing so much....now for some meltdown moments....

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Bloody hell mohill ya know how ta get the water works going lol...ive done those things all there lives i used to say my only rule was they had to have 3 belly laughs a day even if i had to tickle it out of em....miss em so much ...but have faith in our love and espeacially there love of me ...i think thats what she is afraid of...patience is the key ...but it doesnt make trying to live a life without them any easier!

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They sound like boys to be proud of ...

belly laughs are VERY important.

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Hope she thinks so....not many in this house anymore its not a home...hooroo

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Well seems like weeks since last on here have 4 unread lawyer letters and a registered letter from gas and electric company threatening cut off ....found the perfect house to rent but unfortunately cant afford it....so the cycle begins again...the time for no choices looms nearer...

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Thinking of deleting face book accounts and the like soon ....never ceases to amaze me how quick life can change ...just cant turn it around no matter how hard i try ...to far gone im thinking...hope i leave some sort of legacy to learn from...thanks to everyone for your love and support...truly are beautiful strangers.

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Hello @seamusunsean,

If you feel like deleting those accounts will be helpful for you than maybe it's something to try? If you are also referring to this forum please know you are always welcome back and we are here for you and hoping you get some time to do something nice for yourself over christmas and new years . Thank you for sharing with us and reaching out for support, that's a courageous thing to do.

Take care 🙂

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Hi @seamusunsean

ranom events an people can shape our lives too

I have struggle with net own .. but also it was my brother's birthay recently .. the one os no longer with us ..

for me .. I have always gone with what I can affor .. it has meant that I start with what is viable an then work up from there ...

Its true .. there are very limite choices for the poor

an one of my pet hates .. is people that go one about personal choice .. without eing realistic about limitations.

Take care

Ds arent working on battere ol keboar ..

get new one ??? ... next year .. ??

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Yes you can turn it around,
Life can be a b!&$ but I withdrew completely from life
So much so I ended up with a perm terminal illness

I cannot tell u how but its permanent , I'm screaming with pain too

Please do not withdraw from life, for me it ended up a death sentence

You may have mental health issues, but you will trap ur self if u do this.
I can read between the lines of what your thinking
I know. Plz talk to me

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I have empathy for where you are “at’ as I to have looked down and said WTF all too hard time to move on….

I was close to it 5 months ago and brushed it this week, yes money counts and is important to live life, without you live on the street.

Take it easy and keep it simple, first things first, eat, sleep, love your kids, make a basic list to get through the next week and BREETH DEEP when you see the next big wave coming.

Cry to release the stress, I still can’t achieve that yet, but I informed it helps a lot and listen to your hart and stay focused on it. J

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