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Gday im 45 just coming out of a divorce where my children have been systematically taken from me after being a stay at home dad for around seven years. My ex walked out claiming she was living a single life anyway . I kept the kids but started to struggle when she locked me out of our joint account . I was in shock and not copping . Her parents bought her a new house . I was struggling to keep food on the table and pay the bills when i decided maybe it would be best if the kids lived with there mum who had financial backing of her parents . Thats when the lawyer letters started claiming i was mentally unfit to see my children...anyway long story ive basically lost every thing now with a 20,000 debt and still dont get to see my kids ...the courts dont even seem to care about anything i have to say im constantly agreeingto her demands to at least get a supervised visit or phone call....now im giving up feeling like the system agrees with her and im better off out of the picture ...ive started saying goodbyes to friends and family ...my heart constantly aches for my boys ..ive missed so much already ...sick of crying and cant function...last ditch effort.
Yeah mate pension cut off now....debt collector came thursday....dont leave house at all now...wanted to go last night....im done.
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Unknown userMember
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Hey @seamusunsean just wanted to check in with you to see that you're ok. I've sent you an email with some other contacts to consider 🙂
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seamusunseanSenior Contributor
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Thanks passingcloud ive tryed most avenues now...was thinking when i attempted suicide in my mid twenties after a couple of weeks i had mental health nurses visit weekly at home ...is a service like that available still as i dont want to leave the house anymore as a result my pension has been cut off...ive been to doctors , psycos help lines...most recently locked up by police and taken to emergency took hours to get out of there lol...im done with people and society now...if you could let me know it would be much appreciated as im getting feed up with trying to servive ....thanks for your concern.
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seamusunseanSenior Contributor
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Couldnt find email you mentioned.
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seamusunseanSenior Contributor
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Found email...haha....the lowest ive ever been spent my last $50 on a pub meal and beers...dutch courage ....was treating it like my last hoorah...but still surviving.
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Unknown userMember
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you have the most massive will to survive, even if its not how you're thinking... there's a reason you're still here. Might be a good idea to use a support line like life line or suicide call back line/chat if you're feeling really unsafe. you deserve support. lj
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KobeCatSenior Contributor
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Hi @seamusunsean
KobeCat here, one of the overnight moderators.
Sorry things are so rough for you right now.... I just sent you an email.
Kind regards,
Kobe
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seamusunseanSenior Contributor
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still here guys sorry to keep on with my rubbish but dont really have an outlet now. Been trying not to depress people with my misery. Seems like ages since i was here. Time used to go so quick. Struggle with what day it is now. Just got a payment after about 6 weeks...cleared the pantry...so sick of rice and pasta...enjoyed getting creative with it though....amazing what an oxo cube or 100s and 1000s can do haha...dont really do a thing now ....dunno how im gonna get to centerlink to show id...its only up the road...not even wanting to leave house to get food...basicaly nocturnal now...no friends or family now really...they try but i know their sick of it and feel like theres nothing they can do...and i guess theres not...used to have 3-4days up but now hardly have one...dark dark days now getting tired of fighting to survive now...dont even remember when i last seen my boys...my brains decided to help me get away now i think...haha...sick of hearing the same stuff over and over too...tryed to give my dog away was struggling to feed it seemed to like my concoctions though...they refused to take it when they met me...they were a bit shocked at the mess im in i think...glad they did just quietly ...better go hope you're all well...thanks again.
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