no choices

Thanks Tawney been trying to be the bigger person full like im copping flake from everyone at times for not digging dirt and lieing been trying so my kids can see you have to stand up for who you are and what you beleive in....alot have given up on me so im starting to beleive i dont fit in with my old school beliefs ...sorry to hear about your little angel thanks for sharing my my brother died at 9 cant begin to imagine and dont want to try ....one of the reasons i tried not to miss a day without my boys wanted to be with them every second of the day...thats whats killing me ...missing so much...and nothing changes ...nobody will even hear me or care...

Hey, I care or I wouldn't be replying to you. Thanks for your condolences re my girl, my 'angel' as you put it. Still hurts like hell and her leaving, left me so lost in life, and hers cut short. I regret so much not coping better through all the family court but glad I pulled through to see my oldest graduate uni, find a stable long term relationship, and only recently buy his first car. He seems to like that I'm around , even though I don't see him much. He knows I love him and that is an ankor for him. He has helped me hold together. He's had it tough (depression) losing his only sibling, you'd know about that.

I'm so sorry you lost your brother. I'd love to hear more about him? And I can see how the very thought of losing your boys (custody) would bring back those same overwhelming feelings of loss, and the fear of it. How old were you when you lost your brother? Did anyone take you under wing or did you have to wing it yourself and suppress your feelings? (might be resurfacing to complicate your current circumstances of loss). You lost your wife and now maybe your boys. Can you talk this through with someone face to face? Although it must 'feel' the same, remember your boys ARE alive no matter where they live and I promise you - they will always want a healthy connection with you.

Anyway, hope I make sense here, my brain a bit slow at the moment lol. I was wondering if you could 'tag' me (with @ like @Former-Member) me next time so it comes through to email and I get back to you quicker. Hang in there @seamusunsean, hugz xox.

Thanks but unfortunately society has no place for me and beleives im not required in my sons lives.... for the people that i beleived cared for me to say and do the things theyve done to facilitate this ..and friends in a town ive grown up in to beleive the lies and deceit so readily...im already dead inside ...dont care enough to even function....need a miracle and im an athiest....im expendable the one invited to a party but doesnt matter if im not there....

@seamusunsean
I'm sorry this has crushed you. And you've been so let down by so many friends and family etc. And maybe the system. I haven't read all you 14pages here but if you have MI as well - they use that against you, the stigma (know that one well too) but they are bound byblaw to give you time with your kids regardless, even if it has to be supervised. This is you time to be your 'best' for your boys. Don't let anyone's poison poison you. Hold fast, declare your case and trust everything will be OK. I know its hard.

I just read a quote:
"Life is 10% what happens to you
and 90% how you react to it"

don't give up, be grateful for any time you can get and forgive the tsunami of crapola generators. Find new friends.

check in later, stay positive EVERYTHING HAS A FLIPSIDE
xox

Society still favours children 'living with' the mother.

These days
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2:29 PM
Thanks but unfortunately society has no place for me and beleives im not required in my sons lives.... for the people that i beleived cared for me to say and do the things theyve done to facilitate this ..and friends in a town ive grown up in to beleive the lies and deceit so readily...im already dead inside ...dont care enough to even function....need a miracle and im an athiest....im expendable the one invited to a party but doesnt matter if im not there....

@seamusunsean While there are systems in place that can make it hard for you to see your sons, it does not mean that you do not have a place in their lives. What matters, is what you feel. And it seems to me, that you love your sons a great deal - nothing can take this away from you. Don't let the system get the better of you. Your sons need you. It may not seem this way, but things will change. You will see your sons again.

I know your right ...its just that everything im being portrayed as is simply beleived as truth and most of it is totally against what i beleive in...which makes me queastion all that i am ...if i stand agressivly by my convictions ...im violent....if im emotional im mentally unstable...if im moody im on drugs...anything said i have to prove otherwise...nothing in my past backs up any of these lies...ive been accused of messing with my boys minds...i virtually raised them to be the well mannered respectful (with a touch of cheeky lol) men there going to be ...why doesnt that matter...doesnt that say anything about me...my boys are all that i am! Now im nothing....negativity is all i know now. I dont want to be a part of this.

Hello @seamusunsean,

You sound like a really caring and loving father and have raised your boys to be well mannered and respectful, you should be really proud of yourself for this.

I can't imagine how tough things are for you at the moment, keep doing your best and reminding yourself of the good person you are and that what these other people think does not matter all that matters is that you have done your best. Your boys know that.

Lunar

No money .no food. Havnt seen or heard from anyone for days....only a matter of time now

Im no good to anyone now

Hello @seamusunsean I have sent you an email checking in, we are concerned about you.

Lunar