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Living with Loneliness

Living with Loneliness

Feelings of loneliness occur when there is a mismatch between the amount of meaningful social connection we want and the amount we have. So while loneliness can be caused by isolation, it can also be felt when surrounded by people, and in friendships, family and intimate relationships. It is a personal feeling of social isolation

Loneliness can be really hard to manage and studies have shown it can lead to poorer physical and mental health. Physically, loneliness can cause low energy, poorer sleep, headaches, worse experience of physical pain and addiction. Mental health wise, it can cause anxiety, depression, poorer self esteem and thoughts of suicide. Often this can even lead to further isolation and feelings of loneliness for each person.

In Australia, 1 in 3 people report feeling lonely and socially isolated. This means that there is a chance many of us here on the forums experience loneliness, especially given that many of us have or care for those with lived experience of complex mental health concerns. It’s important for us to share that experience and find connection and support.

Questions for the community:

  1. What does loneliness look like for you?
  2. How does loneliness feel and how does it impact your wellbeing?
  3. Are the periods of the day or year when loneliness is harder to manage?
  4. What have you done to manage loneliness, do you have tips for others?

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We recognise that loneliness is experienced differently for everyone and we welcome all stories this space. Please remember to be safe and respectful of eachother, you can find the guidelines here. If you experience any distress whilst reading along with this discussion, please reach out to Lifeline 13 11 14 or the SANE Help Centre to speak to a counsellor.

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Hey there @Doldip15 🌺🙂

reading your post really made me smile - i loved reading how being amongst the people here on the forums has made a positive difference! 🙌🏻☺️💜

You’re right, when those more difficult or challenging times come along, we have each other, we have care and compassion, and we - I believe - have greater resilience together.
I hope you’re doing well this weekend, and you have a lovely day 🤗🌺💜

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Hey there @PeppyPatti 🙂🌺

I hope you enjoy making the sausage rolls, and you like them! ☺️

when I was still married so very many years ago, my ex-cake used to call them street rolls, because the neighbourhood loved them - the batches I was making were getting huge…some 80 at a time, sometimes! It didn’t matter - I loved sharing something nice with the peeps in the old streets ☺️

have fun and enjoy 🌺💜🤗

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Love some homemade goodies @Former-Member & @ peppypatti.

Yesterday I baked a triple ginger 🫚 loaf! First go at this recipe!

My word!! Delicious. Gave some to my mum & grandfather who's unwell (95 years old). Soo delictable & fun to make a mess of the kitchen.

Lots of walking 🚶‍♂️ with my dachshund yesterday. Yoga this morning to find some balance to all the indulgence! 😉

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That loaf sounds delicious @Lila3 ☺️🍞🌺

I was wondering if you’d like to share it sometime, in the Cook Along thread? 🙂

I would definitely give it a try! ☺️

I hope you’re feeling good after yoga this morning 🌺☺️💜

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Oh cool @Lila3

Yoga how cool is that.

I thought. - that from 60 to 70 yrs old is supposed to be the best years of our lives for women. So I'm working towards that.

Sounds like your pretty much there....

 

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It's a horrible empty feeling. I'm estranged from my only Daughter. I haven't seen her for 4 years and she's now 20. It's a very long story but the times that I have tried to reach out she's uses it as an opportunity to gaslight me. So I've stopped.

Loneliness is extremely debilitating. It exacerbates depression and anxiety. I live on my own and mostly work from home.

I was getting treated poorly at work so started to work from home. I'll be giving my notice to leave shortly as the toxic environment has caused my depression to get worse. I've been offered another position but my confidence has hit rock bottom and I have trouble trusting people. That's when procrastination sets in.

I appreciate being part of this group. 🙏

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Hi there @Artemis8 ,

Thank you for having the courage to reach out and share what's been going on for you. It sounds like there's a lot happening.

I'm sorry you have been estranged from your daughter for 4 years. I cannot relate to this as a mother, but I can relate to it as a daughter. I was estranged from my parents for about 10 years. Never spoke to saw them. This was because of my own mental health. However, I should add that I have since reconnected with them - this happened in my 30s when I was in a better place mentally.

Please know you are not alone in what it happening for you. I'm glad you hear you have work lined up and you are able to set your boundaries so that you know to removed yourself from toxic situations.

Trust is a hard one, and for me, I see it that trust needs to be earned. It takes time and isn't something that develops overnight. I can certainly relate to having trust issues.

Please continue reaching out and look after yourself.

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@Artemis8 Sounds like you're dealing with a lot & it's painful for you.

This can be a good place to connect with others who've had a fair dose of suffering. Also we connect by sharing what keeps us going; what helps us 😃 smile.

I walked my dog this afternoon & we saw rumbling storm clouds & also & 🌈 rainbow.

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@tyme thanks for sharing about your estrangement from your family due to mental health issues. 10 years is a long time.

I've been distant / low contact from my family on/ off over years.

There's various reasons: keeping boundaries, experiencing DV (& PTSD), hurt feelings about things from the past.

Currently I am in contact with my parents, sister & niece.

I just try to accept the past & be present in the moment.

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That's important to be present in the moment - else you would miss out on the present moment @Lila3

Yes, 10 years is a long time. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a purpose and things will fall in place in its time.

Please continue connecting with us.

How do you keep busy during in the day?

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