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Living with Loneliness

Living with Loneliness

Feelings of loneliness occur when there is a mismatch between the amount of meaningful social connection we want and the amount we have. So while loneliness can be caused by isolation, it can also be felt when surrounded by people, and in friendships, family and intimate relationships. It is a personal feeling of social isolation

Loneliness can be really hard to manage and studies have shown it can lead to poorer physical and mental health. Physically, loneliness can cause low energy, poorer sleep, headaches, worse experience of physical pain and addiction. Mental health wise, it can cause anxiety, depression, poorer self esteem and thoughts of suicide. Often this can even lead to further isolation and feelings of loneliness for each person.

In Australia, 1 in 3 people report feeling lonely and socially isolated. This means that there is a chance many of us here on the forums experience loneliness, especially given that many of us have or care for those with lived experience of complex mental health concerns. It’s important for us to share that experience and find connection and support.

Questions for the community:

  1. What does loneliness look like for you?
  2. How does loneliness feel and how does it impact your wellbeing?
  3. Are the periods of the day or year when loneliness is harder to manage?
  4. What have you done to manage loneliness, do you have tips for others?

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We recognise that loneliness is experienced differently for everyone and we welcome all stories this space. Please remember to be safe and respectful of eachother, you can find the guidelines here. If you experience any distress whilst reading along with this discussion, please reach out to Lifeline 13 11 14 or the SANE Help Centre to speak to a counsellor.

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@PeppyPatti Thank you for the tag. When I was at Uni as a mature age student. Best 4 years of my life.

Was never lonely.

Made friends with other mature age students. Post lecture or tutorial drinks at the pub.

Got diagnosed with ADD/ADHD halfway through my degree. Best thing that ever happened to me.

Being around people that have a common interest is a very important part of my life.

If I’m socially awkward, I don’t care. I find communicating with people in the Autism spectrum easy.

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@tonys

In case you were wondering, you are definitely a friend of mine. Wish we could meet in real life so I could give you a hug. I’d come sit by your campfire and we could tell each other stories.

I suffer from loneliness a lot. My hubby goes to work and my kids have all left home. I don’t know what to do with myself when I am alone. Sometimes even with hubby around I get lonely, so I come here to the forums looking for people to chat to. Being here on the forums eases my loneliness a little.
I actually suggested to Sane to add loneliness into their reasons for accessing the forums on their recent survey because essentially that’s why I access the forums. I guess looking at this thread that I am not an orphan. Other people are feeling lonely too. I once felt so lonely that I wanted to commit suicide, I ended up in hospital for a time. Anyway, I don’t know what the point to this post is. I guess I just wanted to say me too!

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Thanks for getting this thread going again @PeppyPatti love hearing from you.

@Oaktree @Glisten @tonys @Former-Member @Former-Member

we have all experienced profound isolation. Thanks for sharing. Sorry I can’t respond individually at the moment.

Hope you do find some relief by joining the forums. @Doldip15 @Lila3

I feel a bit spacey and short on words. But feeling a Big Gratitude for all your posts.

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And @saturnzoon @Snowie @Jacques

feeling light headedness. Please don’t read lack of content as lack of care

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Well then you built a citadel . . @Oaktree .. The purpose of life is, happiness..

loneliness is a thing without purpose. . . beyond that which is, Nefarious.

Even back in the day, when you n me, faced off in a lost town, High noon, Neath a Tomb stone sun,

I never ever doubted your friendship Sis... Lucky only you n me know what the hell I'm on about..

Ive said too much for one day. Buy folks. tns

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@Appleblossom thanks for including me. Just these small moments when you're struggling ( I'm deeply depressed currently) can lift you a little.

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I hear you about the light-headed feeling. ATM I'm over sleeping & finding it hard to get out of bed.

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I think I'm feeling devestated that it's so tough for my ex husband to meet someone too through no fault of his own

He wears a Suit Has been since he was 17 years old.

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@Oaktree

I do loved reading your message because you write your passionate true feelings.

I feel the useless feeling after children @Oaktree I cannot believe how did youngest stop talking to me ? What was happening for this happening ??

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@PeppyPatti

I feel you too. My whole sense of worth was tied up in being a Mother. It’s like who am I now that they have grown up. I have that in common with you too, my youngest is not talking to me either and if breaks my heart. She was the most wanted and I probably spoilt her because of it. I had two boys and always wanted a little girl. Am I so unloveable for her to reject me?

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