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Living with Loneliness

Living with Loneliness

Feelings of loneliness occur when there is a mismatch between the amount of meaningful social connection we want and the amount we have. So while loneliness can be caused by isolation, it can also be felt when surrounded by people, and in friendships, family and intimate relationships. It is a personal feeling of social isolation

Loneliness can be really hard to manage and studies have shown it can lead to poorer physical and mental health. Physically, loneliness can cause low energy, poorer sleep, headaches, worse experience of physical pain and addiction. Mental health wise, it can cause anxiety, depression, poorer self esteem and thoughts of suicide. Often this can even lead to further isolation and feelings of loneliness for each person.

In Australia, 1 in 3 people report feeling lonely and socially isolated. This means that there is a chance many of us here on the forums experience loneliness, especially given that many of us have or care for those with lived experience of complex mental health concerns. It’s important for us to share that experience and find connection and support.

Questions for the community:

  1. What does loneliness look like for you?
  2. How does loneliness feel and how does it impact your wellbeing?
  3. Are the periods of the day or year when loneliness is harder to manage?
  4. What have you done to manage loneliness, do you have tips for others?

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We recognise that loneliness is experienced differently for everyone and we welcome all stories this space. Please remember to be safe and respectful of eachother, you can find the guidelines here. If you experience any distress whilst reading along with this discussion, please reach out to Lifeline 13 11 14 or the SANE Help Centre to speak to a counsellor.

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@Former-Member hey there, thank you so much for support. Thank you for company with tea and biscuit

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No worries @Meowmy 💜🌺🫂🙂

Hope you can feel better soon 🙂💜🫂

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@Former-Member hey Pink flamingo, feeling a bit more calm. Got a fruit and some iced water. Just chilling. Have a good evening

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Hey there @Meowmy 🙂🌺

That sounds really nice, I’m glad to hear you’re feeling a bit more settled now 🙂💜

Enjoy that lovely fruit and iced water, and I’ll catch you next time 🙂💜🌺

rest well, and have a nice evening too 🌺☺️

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Reads correct - @Meowmy

Are you writing you need alone time toanage old problems ?

 

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Thanks @Thy

j really struggle to open up to anyone and still cry at the the slightest trigger regarding childhood memories! It makes it very difficult to find a safe path to converse with anyone! My health is deteriorating markedly and I’m struggling to stay on my feet! I’m frightened I am dying and don’t know who to turn to! I can’t get out and about as my daughter has borrowed my car but I need to write a new will! It is oh so scary to be almost trapped within a slow and disabled body that won’t do as you want it too! I fell again last night trying to organise things to get to bed! Thought I’d broken my wrist but only soft tissue thank goodness! Everything takes so long when you’re so slow! Nurse navigator coming tomorrow and I have to have a list ready for her so I had better go and do list or I’ll look uncooperative instead of just exhausted! Keep plugging!

My mum’s favourite saying was “everyday above ground is a good one”. As a person who once had a desperate attraction to drown in mud, I don’t know whether I agree with her or not, but when the sun is shining and the birds are singing , it’s nice out there and I can be at peace in the garden that doesn’t care if I’m slow and can’t breath well! There’s pluses to everything I guess- just need to search them out!

thanks again

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I'm not sure who stuck this , "loneliness" bench in the park, but I sit and read, page after page.

@Meowmy loneliness grips the hand of shame. Your words . I could think about that for hours.

@Thyme .. "people are lonely because they don't have folks around them that understand them.

Perhaps they feel empty , because they don't understand themselves". Thats just downright profound. . .

Many years ago, I lived rough on the city streets as an autistic kid with a brain injury. I'd sit on the park bench back then too, and share whatever I found in the bins with my only friends, Pidgeon's..

We'd talk, and pretend to understand each other.

There was this one Pidgeon. A runt.. crook leg, that always hung back. I'd have to aim well to make sure the other birds didn't bully him out of some scraps.. That bird and me . . . We understood each other... No one else ever did..

We new that for critters like us, the world is not fair, the strong and cunning fatten on the weak. . . .

and now.

People tell me, I did well for myself, I have lots of people share my big house, filled with objects and sound.

But as the older man, in my dreams, I still sit at the foot of that park bench, a Pidgeon, on the fringe of the flock,

and wait for some crumbs to be thrown at me. . .

Nurse said to a doctor, one day when I was taken into a foster home, How can he be happy, with all that's wrong with him. Like I wasn't even there, He turned to her and said, We'll he simply

doesn't know any better.

Maybe that makes me the luckiest man alive.. tonys.

@Former-Member @PeppyPatti @cloudcore @Doldip15 @Oaktree @Appleblossom @Jynx .

@Tilz @Emelia8 @Healandlove and all those who bring me a little closer to understanding the human condition.

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Hello @tonys I forgot to take my meds and woke up in a pile of sweat at midnight. Failed to turn the aircon on. I am online. Just looked around to see who was on and your name came up. Just read this lovely post about loneliness. I know how stark your reality must have been all those years ago. People see you now but they can't fathom your past! I get the same. People have rolled up on the scene saying I've led an easy life based on what they currently see and they had no idea. I've had that a lot from casual onlookers. If they only knew! I am glad you have everything you need now and are reasonably happy and contented. I think the ghosts from the past always come to haunt us though through our dreams. There were those that never walked with us through the valley of tears. Years ago I was put in an institution and was basically left to die. I lost everything and had virtually no-one so I understand what its like to be deserted by people, lost lonely and without any means to get by. I have seen some very serious things transpire and it makes me wonder why onlookers can suddenly make these ill-informed snap judgements. I wonder if they would have been there for me? I don't think so...

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Awe, thankyou @Former-Member .. I wanted to tag you and all my old friends, but to this day, I still have no idea what correct tag protocol is, and this, not being my tent, well you know what I mean.

Hey. you'll have to tell me how you knew I was still up. Thought I'd stay off today and give other folks a go, but then I saw Meowmy's post and a few others. Neon's flickers to life, and the merry go round

grinds into motion.. So I hope its just the heat S G, and not the heat of conflict in your mind.. I read your posts. You did, Hard Time..

just like me. Least I had some protection from the 'oblivious disease' . You were not so lucky I feel.

You jam so much into your life. Frantically piling awkward boxes that just won't stack n keep toppling

over. All to cover crime scenes of past lives. I'm sure I got that wrong, just let me adjust my dials.

Its a strange world this thread. Over the years I have fractured into so many people and little worlds in my mind, that I think at times, it would be quite something to have one night where there is just one entity in my head that could fully feel, complete and utter loneliness.

The very thing that protects me, Beguiles me. I wish I could relieve you of your ghosts.

I'm never really sure if what I recieve from people these days is respect or friendship. I lack those sensors and default to the algorithms of the autistic.. The shape in the mirror, suggests its fear.

Savour every emotion that you feel S G... Feelings are gifts that are all to often, beyond my grasp through the bars of my cage...

I have said to you a few times. You are a beacon in the mist for me smiling gecko .

Don't ever give an inch of you hard fought ground.. Special thoughts to you , my friend. tonys.

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Thanks all of you and thanks Tony’s! You’re all an inspiration and we all survive! Your story of the pigeon really said something to me! I used to hide in the ferns in the garden and believe no one could see me so no one could find me! Safety in the mind if nowhere else! Your pigeon reminds me of the garden! And being lost in the bush!
Hope we all find something nice today that brings a smile instead of tears!
warm strokes instead of cold ones for all!

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