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Thankyou @Otter but I'm fine, I'm safe. Did you mean to reach out to @Former-Member instead?

My yes - I had hit the wrong tag button there, my sincerest apologies! Hoping you are well too regardless @Dimity!!

@Former-Member

I hope you have managed to get sleep and through another difficult day.

It is really hard trying to keep the depths of some feelings from the notice of family members. I too have been careful about access to the phone.

A few years ago I felt similarly to your post .... "what supports". Somehow since then I have developed more supports. I never thought I would experience feeling supported, but if it was possible for me, I believe it would be possible for you. Sometimes it was experimenting with actually made me feel that way. It has been a long wait, but if things progress well, then worth the wait.

On the one hand it sounds like there are good thing things in your family. Hang on to those thoughts and memories, to help give you strength.

Warm Regards and Stay Safe

Apple

Thank you for your reply and your time given to me on the forum @Appleblossom @Dimity @HenryX @Bunniekins @bipolarbunny @Emelia8 @Judi9877 @Shaz51 @frog @LostAngel @Mazarita and everyone else I just can't think of atm, sorry.

I am so very glad to hear that you now have the support you need Apple. I have really enjoyed talking to you and respect yo and others I have got to know. I just want to let you know that I will be asking Sane to delete my account in a few days time. I want to wait to see how you recover from your op Dimity 🌹

my reason for leaving is that although my husband and I have our own ipads( mine is a very old one) we are linked. I have wondered why he was not talking to me although I have been very upset and tonight turned away in bed, although I didn't stay in bed long as I can't sleep. I have just realised he can check everything I do and say on sane as he knows my user name. I have no privacy. I have obviously upset him with what I have written but this site was as you all know is somewhere we can say what's really on our minds. Please take good care of yourselves my friends. I will follow you from the public side but unfortunately I won't be able to connect.

love to you all my friends, Jackie 💞

That's very hard @Former-Member

I know some people start over with a new user name, but idk if that would help in your situation.

Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you.

Hi @Former-Member ,

I'm so sorry to hear of everything you're going through at the moment, I can see that you are feeling unheard and unsupported. I also hear your concerns about your privacy on the forums. We respect and support your decision to step away from this space. Please know that SANE will always be here to support you, and you're welcome to return whenever you feel ready.

from cloudcore

Hi @Former-Member ,

I'm so sorry you are struggling at the moment. You are not invisible to your SANE supporters. I wish you all the best for the future.

lost9.

Hello @Former-Member

Thank you @Former-Member , so very much for the support that you have given to me specifically and to other members of the forum, especially during difficult times. I am aware, also, that at many of those times, you have been through significant difficulties and experienced concerns yourself.

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It is likely that others, on the forum, may be in a similar situation to you, with regard to their spouse and close friends.

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My hope would be, that being able to share what you give, as well as what you, and each of us receives, by our presence on the forum, if shared with those closest to you, may enable you to return. It is difficult sometimes, to let others know how we feel and what we are thinking. Writing and sharing our thoughts allows us the format from which we have access to a cathartic response, not always available in other forms of communication.

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I will often recall to mind, support You have offered me. Thank you

With My Very Best Wishes

@HenryX

@Former-Member Sorry to hear that. You have been a good presence here, but I understand your predicament. All I can hope is that your husband can ponder on your circumstances and grow in a loving response. It is his job to give you a bit of support through all this, and maybe he will man up.

Best regards on your journey.

Apple

Hello @Appleblossom Hubby is a good man. But this was my special place and private. I was so stupid to not know that you can check on history searches. By clicking on the open book symbole at the top of the page and then click the glasses symbole to see the history. Brings up all my responses 😒

I will still follow and read but not able to support. 🌺