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My girl

My girl

Hey Forum Friends. So my girl turns 27 tomorrow. No contact from her since August last year apart from my visit to her in hospital where she did not recognise me. Although I did receive a txt last week, which I was excited to receive until I read it. Money, needed money, that's all, nothing more 😞 Her team tell me she was paid her DSP two days so I fear she's up to her old habits again. I was going to drive the 6 hours to visit but the fear of what I will be confronted with has had me change my mind. Now the guilt of that decision is rampant but I know seeing her in the unkept state she's in will break my heart all over again and from past experiences, so many, I know in my heart it wont, I can't, change what is. Her birthday present remains uncollected from her local post office despite my txts to her that it is there for her. I've lost her to her illness and addictions but how to let go? So many memories of happier days when she was my little girl so tomorrow I'll simply try to focus on those simple happy times. When and how do I draw the line of trying to make contact or am I putting myself through this suffering to no avail? A very sad mumma at present.

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Good to hear from you @Krishna

Cold here too so doona on lap.

I have an anniversary day tomrw. 2 different things, both with a sense of sadness.

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we are here for you anytime my @Krishna

enjoy your fire , stay warm and a nice cuppa

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@Appleblossom makes for a difficult time, anniversaries. I hope your day tomorrow is gentle. Here if you need any support throughout the day xx

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Thank you I might tag from a thread on the other side of forum.

@Krishna

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Hugs @Krishna 🤗🌷

Tag me too please @Appleblossom , I care x

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Thinking of you today @Appleblossom and hope you're doing okay and if need be, let the tears flow with a little Mona Lisa smile of acceptance. Love and hugs 🙏❤️

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thinking of you my @Appleblossom and sending you lots of hugs

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@Appleblossom @Anastasia @Shaz51 @Eve7 @Krishna

my heart hurt reading your story.

You may or may not of tried?

There is a worldwide fellowship called Al-anon that has a wonderful successful program that helps and supports many many families and friends living and coping with their loved ones in addiction. It is well worth attending a few meetings for yourself to listen how other's cope and ways they navigate through the pain and powerlessness. They are very welcoming, warm and friendly, google them in your local area.

sending my prayers for yourself and your daughter 🙏🙏

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Hi @Krishna
I have just read through this thread.
It brought a tear to my eye. A few infact.

All the best

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Thank you @MDT 🙏

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