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My girl

My girl

Hey Forum Friends. So my girl turns 27 tomorrow. No contact from her since August last year apart from my visit to her in hospital where she did not recognise me. Although I did receive a txt last week, which I was excited to receive until I read it. Money, needed money, that's all, nothing more 😞 Her team tell me she was paid her DSP two days so I fear she's up to her old habits again. I was going to drive the 6 hours to visit but the fear of what I will be confronted with has had me change my mind. Now the guilt of that decision is rampant but I know seeing her in the unkept state she's in will break my heart all over again and from past experiences, so many, I know in my heart it wont, I can't, change what is. Her birthday present remains uncollected from her local post office despite my txts to her that it is there for her. I've lost her to her illness and addictions but how to let go? So many memories of happier days when she was my little girl so tomorrow I'll simply try to focus on those simple happy times. When and how do I draw the line of trying to make contact or am I putting myself through this suffering to no avail? A very sad mumma at present.

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Hey @Krishna

I hope you are feeling rested. I was wondering about your questions about drawing a line and when to stop contact.

Would you be able to elaborate on those thoughts for me? Are you getting the feeling that no contact would lead to a better outcome somewhere?

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Hi @AussieRecharger I continue each week to ring my girl but she never answers so I txt and receive no reply. Simple messages of hoping she's doing okay and sending our love as always. Nothing demanding or heavy. I know through her carer that she is receiving these messages. Each time I reach out to her and she rejects me, it puts me in a downward spiral thus my question to myself, should I stop trying and simply hope one day she contacts me. There's no doubt she knows we love her and want to be there to support her through this, as we always have, but for reasons unknown to me she's chosen to estrange herself from us. I really don't know what the outcome will be but my hope is to have some type of relationship again.

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@Krishna

I think in your last line you nailed it, hold on to hope for the relationship. You can't make her want to reconnect but you can keep that line open and go about your life knowing that the connection is there and open and if for some reason or another, she decides to jump on the other end, hooray, but if she doesn't, well you always have the satisfaction that you kept the line open and you kept the hope alive.

Good luck Krishna, do what you know is best for you.

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Thank you @AussieRecharger Your advice makes a lot of sense and yes keeping that line open is the key to my peace of mind, knowing that I'm doing my best to remain here for her. Much gratitude x 🙏

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You can't make her want to reconnect but you can keep that line open and go about your life knowing that the connection is there and open and if for some reason or another, she decides to jump on the other end, hooray, but if she doesn't, well you always have the satisfaction that you kept the line open and you kept the hope alive. ---- great advice @AussieRecharger and thenk you my friend

and you are awesome @Krishna

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Thanks @Shaz51 . This mothers love is forever and like all of us, simply trying to do our best.

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This mothers love is forever and like all of us, simply trying to do our best. --- that is it my @Krishna , i have had no children of my own but i have brought up 4 step children who are all adults now

@AussieRecharger, @MDT , @Alicat , @Anastasia

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@Krishna 🌺🌼💗🌼🌺

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@Anastasia So beautiful. Thank you my friend 😉

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@Shaz51 A favourite quote "love is the key and the key is to love".

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