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My girl

My girl

Hey Forum Friends. So my girl turns 27 tomorrow. No contact from her since August last year apart from my visit to her in hospital where she did not recognise me. Although I did receive a txt last week, which I was excited to receive until I read it. Money, needed money, that's all, nothing more 😞 Her team tell me she was paid her DSP two days so I fear she's up to her old habits again. I was going to drive the 6 hours to visit but the fear of what I will be confronted with has had me change my mind. Now the guilt of that decision is rampant but I know seeing her in the unkept state she's in will break my heart all over again and from past experiences, so many, I know in my heart it wont, I can't, change what is. Her birthday present remains uncollected from her local post office despite my txts to her that it is there for her. I've lost her to her illness and addictions but how to let go? So many memories of happier days when she was my little girl so tomorrow I'll simply try to focus on those simple happy times. When and how do I draw the line of trying to make contact or am I putting myself through this suffering to no avail? A very sad mumma at present.

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Thinking of you and your girl this afternoon @Krishna and eating carrot cake.

❤️😢❤️

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Here too @Krishna @Eve7

are you ok Eve?

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Thanks @Eve7 and carrot cake, yum xx

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Are you ok @Krishna ?

How was your picnic?

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Hey @Anastasia Just really want to go to bed now and have this day finished. Decided to just do the food shopping instead and on my return home a message from my girls NDIS carer stating my girl has asked if I could send money for her birthday. Present still sitting at post office. I gave it some thought and decided to send her $50 being her birthday. Attempted to do so only to find my account has been hacked and am still on hold with the CBA after 1.5 hours with the most annoying music lol. Wasn't meant to be. I'm emotionally exhausted but tomorrow's another day xxx

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Oh @Krishna

Not what you needed to add to an already difficult day, I am sorry to hear this. Hugs and hugs. I'm in bed. Gave up on my day. Hope you can too?

Tomorow is a new day 🌷

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@Anastasia yes dinner then bed. Rest well lovely xxx

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thank you @Krishna , sending you lots of hugs , been thinking of you lots

@Anastasia, @Eve7 , @Appleblossom

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Sorry to hear your day was interrupted in that way. @Krishna

You can only do what you can.

I had a scam in January which I still have not fully sorted, but is on the list for next week.

I see part of parenting as setting an example and leading regarding different levels of meaning. Your discomfort with issues around cash gifts and appreciation of other gifts resonated with me. There has to be more to relationships.

Hope the coming week is better.

Apple

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Thank you all @Shaz51 @Anastasia @Eve7 @Appleblossom for all your support. It made a difficult day a little easier. So tired today from ruminating on the past and I should know better than to go there as all it achieves is a drain of energy. Must make a conscious effort to stop doing that. Anyways my friends, bitterly cold here, fire is going so a wee rest on the lounge for now. 🙏❤️

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