Hello @Oaktree
So pleased to hear from you. Part of this evening was spent “veging” watching NCIS, and some building programs on TV. Later, a response to the “Writing letters....” thread. Thank you for the “support”. Then a reply to oceangirl on her thread “Checking In”. Got up this morning and got ready to go out, but did not feel up to it, so I have been on the computer for part of the day and some TV watching.
I am very pleased that your situation with the case manager and the clinic seems to have improved. I really hope, while recognising the potential, in the future, for some experience of a personally rocky road, that the relationship with the psych stays on track and remains supportive.
I know that you are aware of my “relationship” with Facebook, however, I was pleased with your suggestion of checking the WOW site.
The situation with your brother is delicate, not for him, but for you. On oceangirl's thread, I said that I am carrying what occurred to me during my childhood, and really, it will never not be a part of me. However, what I can do is change its significance for me. Quoting what I said on the other site, “What we have experienced, doesn't necessarily leave us, through guidance and therapy, but can, I believe, be changed into worthwhile and meaningful resources, for our use in the future, for our own benefit and that of others.”
Sometimes, when we seek apologies from others, we can be seeking to apportion responsibility and, or blame. That may not help us to resolve our own thoughts and concerns about a given event.
Often times the answers that others might give will possibly give us little consolation. However, we do not need the words of others, in order to deal with what is now a part of our own lives, to deal with and use for better purposes. Often, that can be the unfortunate need to understand and assist someone else in a similar situation, or prevent such from happening to others, by quality advice and education. However, I do believe that it may be best, not to make it a mission in life. That just perpetuates the opposite of what we hopefully have learned to understand.
There are events in my life that have come to mind recently, as I was informed would possibly occur by the counsellor. Some events, I wish that I had approached differently, others I wish had never occurred at all, but I have to respond to what I know now, not what I did not know, understand or realise the implications of many years ago.
Some of those events involved a questioning of myself, and who I believed I should be.
Everything that you have shared with me, shows me that you are
a very special person, in every respect,
who experienced a situation that has impacted on your own self esteem and respect. However, to repeat what I have heard others say, and which I would also say, “What we experience, does not make us who we are.” From what you have told me,
I admire the person you are, and what you have accomplished for yourself and your family.
With My Loving Care and Very Best Wishes
@HenryX
