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Hi @HenryX

I am still laying low on the forums.
Thank you for not tagging anyone on this thread as this is my safe place.

Thanks also for the good thoughts regarding today's appointment with the psych. I am taking my husband for support today so it shouldn't be too scary.

Meggle

Hello @Oaktree

Lovely to hear back from you. I will continue as we are for now, no tagging and continue to recognise your safe place.

Best Wishes

@HenryX

Dearest Henry and Maggie,

so sorry for intruding on your private place but, I will have my account closed tomorrow and just wanted to let you know Maggie that I understand all the walks that you have written about, ie coastal as I live close to them also. And the shopping centre. I also believe the people you are seeing are the ones who I have seen. I really cared about them and still do that's why I hurt. but was told I was being discharged without any notification. Total blindsided, this has left me extremely traumatised. Please give deep thought into if you want to continue with therapy with S and S. As kind and friendly as they are you will be blindsided like me if you are shown to start questioning them. I wont you to know this because I still hurt so very much to this day. And I care about your welfare that you don't make the same mistake I did.

lots of love to you both Jackie 🌺 💞💙

@Former-Member

So sorry that you were blindsided and hurt. I will proceed with caution - thanks for the warning. Sorry to hear that you are closing your account. So many people leaving lately.

Best wishes

Meggle

@HenryX

Psychology was not scary today. Had my husband in tow so the psychologist kept things very general as I made it clear right away that I don't want to share details of memories etc with my husband. We talked about things like what he can do to help me and support me through tough emotions. I think today's session was useful in helping me gauge how things will be with my psychologist going forward. Sorry to see Always-hope is leaving us here. So many people leaving lately.

Meggle

Hello @Oaktree

Very pleased, Meg, that your appt with the psych was much less stressful and pressured. It sounds as though it was an opportunity to set out something of a map of potential areas for discussion. Also, that opportunity for you to establish, without pressure, the likely process from here with the psych.

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As I think that you are aware, I believe that it is good that your husband has been brought closer into the picture. That gives you more support and the clinic psych more reassurance about the support that you have also.

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I understand your reservation about disclosure of certain issues.

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Like you I am sorry that Always-hope is leaving, but more particularly, the reasons for her doing so. I am concerned about the support, or otherwise, that she has available to her.

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It is strange that people are taking time out or leaving the forum, especially considering that this is a time when it may be assumed that people are likely to need more support. However, while the site and forum is intended to provide support and nurturing, it can also be a stressful environment, which, if we are not cautious about the stress, it can build up. There are times when I feel it, particularly if something that I have said, is taken in a way that was not intended. There are times when people may think that I over explain positions, others and my own, but that is just one way to keep others “in the loop” and trying to keep people informed about my feelings and intentions. That, as well as indicating, to the best of my ability, that I am keeping the feelings of others well and truly front of mind.

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This afternoon I joined the WOW zoom session. It was good. Unfortunately, my laptop camera is not working, so I shall have to see if I can sort out the problem. I haven't used it for ages.

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I am very pleased that the day seems to have been successful for you Meg.

With Best Wishes

@HenryX

Hello @Oaktree

I am about to go to bed, but thought that I could tell you a story, about a friendship, a singer and her music, and how the singer and her music became known to me.

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A couple of years after I arrived in Geraldton, a lady named Celia, who was coordinator of the Women's Health Resource Centre knew that I was looking for accommodation. She suggested I share the rental on a house that she occupied. The arrangement suited me as we had some common interests and knew various people in town. We would share the preparation of meals for guests from time to time, for informal dinner parties.

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On my birthday anniversary, one year, Celia gave me the gift of a tape (yes, it was that far back). I had not heard of the singer or her music before. When I played it I was quite astounded at the enjoyment I derived from the music. It was a tape of music by Enya. Even at this stage, we did not know each other's preferences in music or other interests. What intrigued me, was how Celia could have known that I would enjoy the music. In her nonchalant way, she simply said, "Oh! I just had a feeling that you would enjoy it".

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We kept in touch for quite a few years after Celia left Geraldton for a position in Victoria. I visited Celia there, when I took another friend, by car, to visit her sister in Canberra. I went off, by myself, for a trip down through Eden and down the Western coast, over through Melbourne to Ballarat, where Celia lived and worked at the time. I am sad that we lost touch, after that, through changes of work and addresses.

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One day, Mum was looking through the paper and in the obituaries was a notice of her passing in Perth. So in a sense this little story is with respect for and in her memory.

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The music is playing from an album, “Shepherd Moons”, that I have found on the net. It is just as well I have learned to touch type because the keys are a bit blurry. We were an interesting pair to other people who, I think, may have wondered how we ever got along, each of us having our own idiosyncrasies which were, in fact, the basis for much good humoured banter and teasing. I like to think that we could do that because we could see, and possibly reflect for each other, the lighter side of our individual personalities.

With that little story, Meg

I will Wish You a Good Night

With My Very Best Wishes

@HenryX

Hey @HenryX

Thanks for telling me the story about Celia. Funny how people so different can get along quite well. I enjoy listening to Enya also. So sorry that you lost touch with your friend and to hear of her passing.
Maybe one day you will meet again on the other side. But not too soon I hope.

Lots of love

Meggle

Hi @Oaktree

Thank you for the sentiments

Best Wishes

@HenryX

Hello @Oaktree

A recent support was placed on one of my posts here on your thread. As far as I can follow, that member was not aware of the reason for another's intended departure. In following the other member's profile, saw a reference which lead to this thread. Apparently/possibly looking for the other member's reason for departure. ??

Anyway, I had a quick look back and noted that there are no details that involved discussions between you, Docker6 and me, a few evenings ago, for which I am pleased.

To some degree the discussions here in this thread are relatively private, however, I do believe that what you and I discuss should not cause anyone else concern or distress. Indeed, the fact that the website is open to everyone means that privacy is limited. This is some of the reason that some of my replies, may at times, have seemed somewhat formal, because of my awareness that all the doors are open, and privacy is a courtesy not a requirement.

I have some other thoughts which I will include in another note, this one being of a more "administrative" nature.

With Best Wishes

@HenryX