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Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Unknown userMember15 Dec 2020, 8:40 pm AEDT

Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas is so stressful for so many of us,bits really hard to get into the 'spirit' of it all when battling illness, loss, reminders of loss, empty chairs, llonelines, financial strain...

WHAT MAKES CHRISTMAS HARD FOR YOU, AND WHY.

I just wanna create a space where we can vent the thoughts and feelings tabu or misunderstood by so many. Of cause there's good mixed in ok but we don't like spoiling their fun, so when it gets you down come here say it.

LONELINESS is a big one, our poor @Adge is waiting on his 10th Christmas alone, but this year is even worse because COVID has caused council to shut down their only community Christmas lunch he looked fwd to. This year looks to feel extra ALONE for Adge and he's already sad because if it. And that's on top of losing his job recently. I feel for you Adge 💙💙💙

Its just me and an adult son in the Big Smoke who recharges best in his own company and finds Christmas 'get-to-gethers' a chore I think, an interruption to his limited time off work... (or so he makes me feel). It doesn't help that he's lost faith in the concept of 'family' after coming from a broken home and losing his sister (to asthma) suddenly when he was 21. He's right, or 'family' is shattered and I don't feel it anymore. He's become someone I know really well, and love and care about... but since he abandoned me to spend Christmas with his girlfriends family interstate acfewvyears back... and constantly talks of moving overseas permanently, yep, I can't depend on Christmas in loving company. Its a sad time.

TELL ME WHAT YOU FIND HARD ABOUT CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR?

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TABSenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 2:00 pm AEDT

Re: Christmas, the SAD side 😞

PS am ok on my own at xmas, not my first time, its the new norm last 3 years lol @Former-Member @Snowie @Meowmy 😸

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MeowmySenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 2:53 pm AEDT

Re: Christmas, the SAD side 😞

@TAB hey Tabby, it's good you have spoken with father. That's a big achievement already.

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TABSenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 3:02 pm AEDT

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Yeah I may leave it at that for time being @Meowmy hope your day isn't too bad today

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AdgeSenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 4:13 pm AEDT

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Yep, 350 people (or 2000 at the other Lunch event), for the sake of being social - Is Way outside my comfort zone.

It's usually 40C here on Christmas Day (it was last year, & most years) - Outside in the full-sun is Not the place to be.

Plus always with strangers, who I will never see again.

Nice strangers, I'm sure (usually).

Any couples (or 2 friends) who go to these Community Lunch functions - generally only talk to themselves, not to me or to anyone else.

So it does not always seem "social".

You can be sitting at a table with 8 other people (past experience), with no conversation in complete silence - except for couples & friends whispering (talking quietly) to each other.

Adge

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TABSenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 4:20 pm AEDT

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Sounds awful @Adge have decided today to stay at home on own for Christmas

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AdgeSenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 5:19 pm AEDT

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Well I'm with you in that one @TAB At home on my own - Is what I've been, most Christmases for the past 10 years (lots).

Adge

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TABSenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 9:21 pm AEDT

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hope things okay for you @Adge

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AdgeSenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 9:28 pm AEDT

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Thanks @TAB For you too.

I'm still plodding along, treading water.

Like you said earlier (about yourself) - I'm not feeling very humorous or funny ATM.

I've got tiny baby finches in the nest, at the moment - That's always lovely (me being a Bird enthusiast).

You call it my "Christmas Present"....

Adge

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ClawdeSenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 9:48 pm AEDT

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It's lonely I have too leave to the ones I love and be nice and helpful to strangers some friends but all I want be is at home with my clan, but most live far away I think of of Christmas nicely but can not think past it will be over soon so my selfish life can be all mine again with out the pressure of pleasing others yeah I know I make a difference but I am not that keen anymore of the religion relationship it is pressure now so many expectations of money up presents and no real time left to talk to the large crowds that gather, only on a superficial level that does not suit my at this time trying to work out when the time comes just to avoid and live more like a hemmit

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ClawdeSenior Contributor18 Dec 2020, 10:01 pm AEDT

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Does any one have advise on what they do if they are at this pressure time in there lives when it borders on the fuck it just to much some years

infeel I want to hibernate till I have the strength to be able to do it with nice prestents I could deliver before hand then not have to sit around or even attend these family meetings and wait for the arguments to strat up

so my question is do I go .? And leave early or not go at all what would you do Clawde here,

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