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Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas is so stressful for so many of us,bits really hard to get into the 'spirit' of it all when battling illness, loss, reminders of loss, empty chairs, llonelines, financial strain...

WHAT MAKES CHRISTMAS HARD FOR YOU, AND WHY.

I just wanna create a space where we can vent the thoughts and feelings tabu or misunderstood by so many. Of cause there's good mixed in ok but we don't like spoiling their fun, so when it gets you down come here say it.

LONELINESS is a big one, our poor @Adge is waiting on his 10th Christmas alone, but this year is even worse because COVID has caused council to shut down their only community Christmas lunch he looked fwd to. This year looks to feel extra ALONE for Adge and he's already sad because if it. And that's on top of losing his job recently. I feel for you Adge 💙💙💙

Its just me and an adult son in the Big Smoke who recharges best in his own company and finds Christmas 'get-to-gethers' a chore I think, an interruption to his limited time off work... (or so he makes me feel). It doesn't help that he's lost faith in the concept of 'family' after coming from a broken home and losing his sister (to asthma) suddenly when he was 21. He's right, or 'family' is shattered and I don't feel it anymore. He's become someone I know really well, and love and care about... but since he abandoned me to spend Christmas with his girlfriends family interstate acfewvyears back... and constantly talks of moving overseas permanently, yep, I can't depend on Christmas in loving company. Its a sad time.

TELL ME WHAT YOU FIND HARD ABOUT CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR?

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Hugs @Adge
I've popped in for support, not good. Was wrapping gifts & charity box for my Sydney church when Syncopy, palpitations and shakes came on me 😢 and tears. I'm so sick of it. Is emotional I'm sure, some kinda PTSD thing, probably didn't help that I packed dad's Christmas presents to give away 😢 I've had to lay down under the aircon. Furbaby is demanding and wanting to cuddle but she's too hot and I feel nausias, have to push her off which she doesn't understand 😭 why is Christmas so hard?

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Hi @Clawde, withdrawing is part of depression, and even just a personality trait. A lot of us just want Christmas over with, especially if family are not kind. Its about family so if ya family is highly disfunctional, then, well, what's the point.
I had to give myself a talking to today, remind myself I am a woman of faith" and that Christmas is about the coming of Messiah- not my hurtful family's, or grief, or the likelihood my son will be too caught up with his dad's health cricis to come here for me. But if for no other reason, I need to make an effort to be JOYFULL for the coming of Christ. So, I have got out the garage the little tree and fairylights. That will have to do.
I'm not sure of your situation Clawde, love to get to know you better. Please be kind to yourself 💞💙💞💙
Ha, talking to myself here😞

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Thankyou @Former-Member that helps love from Clawde

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((((( @Clawde )))))
💙💚💛🧡💔💜

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Bar Humbug! My son just called, of cause he's dad has had two major complications from heart surgery there in Brisbane, and my son doesn't want to leave area for Christmas with me being 2hrs away 😞.

Oh well, guess if someone's dying 😞 or might...

One thing nobody talks about, and that I can't action, is I still feel the love I had for that man, my X, even after all he did, its demented I know, but i will still cry when he dies ( 🤫 don't tell anyone). he's much older than me so it's likely 🤔 probably a Stockholm thing though - who knows- long story.

A Sydney friend of mine had major surgery last week and developed complications and won't be home for Christmas either. His wife & kidults are stressed for him and christmas without him home. And he's in pain... might have to go back for more surgery... Bloomin' cancer of cause

All this suffering, do close to Christmas... I just wanna burst 🤮

Christmas just isn't fun for so man

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@Former-Member sitting with you sweetheart 💜💜

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Oh what a disappointment @Former-Member You would feel let-down, by your son not coming to stay with you for Christmas (I would).

About Exes, yes I understand.

I have not seen my ex-wife in 10 years - Yet I still do have feelings for her (weird isn't it?).

Despite the fact that she was often very aggressive towards me - & cut off communication, would not make any efforts.

Mainly it's the Lost Plans & Dreams - eg to have children (that's the Biggest).

Hugs ((((EOR))))

Adge

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Thanks @Snowy @Adge 😢 you do understand. I've had palpitations all day today, robablt stress, might go have ECG. Don't wanna further inconvenience / stress my son though, so 🤫
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