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Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas is so stressful for so many of us,bits really hard to get into the 'spirit' of it all when battling illness, loss, reminders of loss, empty chairs, llonelines, financial strain...

WHAT MAKES CHRISTMAS HARD FOR YOU, AND WHY.

I just wanna create a space where we can vent the thoughts and feelings tabu or misunderstood by so many. Of cause there's good mixed in ok but we don't like spoiling their fun, so when it gets you down come here say it.

LONELINESS is a big one, our poor @Adge is waiting on his 10th Christmas alone, but this year is even worse because COVID has caused council to shut down their only community Christmas lunch he looked fwd to. This year looks to feel extra ALONE for Adge and he's already sad because if it. And that's on top of losing his job recently. I feel for you Adge 💙💙💙

Its just me and an adult son in the Big Smoke who recharges best in his own company and finds Christmas 'get-to-gethers' a chore I think, an interruption to his limited time off work... (or so he makes me feel). It doesn't help that he's lost faith in the concept of 'family' after coming from a broken home and losing his sister (to asthma) suddenly when he was 21. He's right, or 'family' is shattered and I don't feel it anymore. He's become someone I know really well, and love and care about... but since he abandoned me to spend Christmas with his girlfriends family interstate acfewvyears back... and constantly talks of moving overseas permanently, yep, I can't depend on Christmas in loving company. Its a sad time.

TELL ME WHAT YOU FIND HARD ABOUT CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR?

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Here! Here! @Adge - definately too "peopley" out there indeed. I can't stand crowds or caos anymore either. Shopping centres have way too much senseless stimuli. I've found acquaint little plaza here that has all I need for times like this.
Once at a huge Kmart parking lot, I got called out to move my car afer I got out too, for the same reason outside the Car service place -;there was no reserve signs here either.

I agree too that it's the WHOLE season from the time the decorations go up in all the shops. I've been avoiding it all even more since my giel died, when the sight of it would have me burst into tears. Same at Easter.

This week the few friends I have don't have time for a phone call or visit or coffee 'cause they're just "too flat out now getting ready for Christmas" (🤔 and they're not even going away) Ouch, there's that reminder you're not part of a family. And that's my closest friend. But she did say (with a strained background sigh) "I'd like to have you & son some time, might have to be after Christmas now" and she had to rush off to a Meetup. Makes me feel like a charity case and part of me just wants to tell her to shove it!
Others texting are starting to ask "what are you doing for Christmas?" I'm thinking of just saying "I don't celebrate Christmas" it truly has become a non-event for me.

With two family deaths this month (one my dad) - I just can't put 🎄 decorations up, or mail MERRY CHRISTMAS CARDS 😕

I did buy a little iced Christmas cake but consumed that already - comfort eating ☹️ I know, sad hey.

Anyway, whinge! whinge!
Thanks for listening 💞

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I'm sorry that you've had similar experiences - With Shopping Centre Carparks (& shopping) @Former-Member At this time of year.

Sadly, people tell me that they're "Too busy to talk or catch up" all year round - Not just at Christmas time (mostly my brothers).

Yes it hurts - No it would not hurt them, to find a few minutes to talk to you (or me).

Comfort eating is okay - I'm sure you can manage it (if it helps). I do that too, sometimes.

The other Community Christmas Lunch is now Closed to Bookings (Fully Booked) – They’re turning people away.

That’s because of the Restricted Covid 350 people – instead of their usual 500+

So it’s just as well that I booked it over a week ago – As soon as I confirmed that my local Christmas Lunch was cancelled. It's in the full sun, outdoors.

Usually these Community Christmas Lunches take extra people (bookings) right up to Christmas day.

My local Community Christmas Lunch was Never fully booked – They always had room for another 50 to 100 people (they said).

The MH Social (fortnightly) Lunch organisers gave me a lovely food hamper.

Adge

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@Adgeso you have one Dinner to go to, but it out in the hot sun? Sorry my brains not taking in much atm.

Hope i can hold out 'till my son gets through his dad's crisis... feeling very spent, past my useby date...

Can't seem to concentrate enough to get anything done... oh, did the dishes today, well actually, most of them, left cups soaking. Wet washing has been in laundry for days. I'm struggling but thankful I have a bed and tv

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HI @TAB - you said (somewhere this morning) that you might be alone for Christmas. I'm tagging you in here if you want a place to be for the silly season, to real, say what you want. You have a great sense of humour so maybe you can give us a lift 🤔
Wouldn't you visit your dad?
Safe travels if you do go interstate 🙏

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yes since parents sold house, mother died, mostly xmas on own @Former-Member its all good. Just realised all risk and no gain if rush off to see father, all last minute, didnt realise how cose xmas is now after job kept getting longer, only got back other day, need a few days to get over that, just no time thanks not very funny atm lol

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Understand @TAB - That's what this threads about. Being Real without spoiling everyone elses 'fun'
Hopefully you'll feel bit better after resting a couple days.
I can't believe Christmas is less than a week away either. When did that happen? lol

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Yeah I still think its 12th or something , it all caught up with me @Former-Member

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Rest up @TAB maybe do something special for NY🎉

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Yeah I might end up there, not by Christmas though @Former-Member
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