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Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas is so stressful for so many of us,bits really hard to get into the 'spirit' of it all when battling illness, loss, reminders of loss, empty chairs, llonelines, financial strain...

WHAT MAKES CHRISTMAS HARD FOR YOU, AND WHY.

I just wanna create a space where we can vent the thoughts and feelings tabu or misunderstood by so many. Of cause there's good mixed in ok but we don't like spoiling their fun, so when it gets you down come here say it.

LONELINESS is a big one, our poor @Adge is waiting on his 10th Christmas alone, but this year is even worse because COVID has caused council to shut down their only community Christmas lunch he looked fwd to. This year looks to feel extra ALONE for Adge and he's already sad because if it. And that's on top of losing his job recently. I feel for you Adge 💙💙💙

Its just me and an adult son in the Big Smoke who recharges best in his own company and finds Christmas 'get-to-gethers' a chore I think, an interruption to his limited time off work... (or so he makes me feel). It doesn't help that he's lost faith in the concept of 'family' after coming from a broken home and losing his sister (to asthma) suddenly when he was 21. He's right, or 'family' is shattered and I don't feel it anymore. He's become someone I know really well, and love and care about... but since he abandoned me to spend Christmas with his girlfriends family interstate acfewvyears back... and constantly talks of moving overseas permanently, yep, I can't depend on Christmas in loving company. Its a sad time.

TELL ME WHAT YOU FIND HARD ABOUT CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR?

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Yes hopefully @TAB I'm looking for that Silver Lining - Real Options that really work....

Like the Optimistic Child (Optimist/ Pessimist Story) -

Who was very happily searching through a huge pile of Horse Poo - He was happy because he said (thought) "There has Got to be a Horse, somewhere in all this S.....t"...

Adge

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Sounds a lot like me and work @Adge I have to do something different very shortly re work hopefully with government or council or somewhere where they dont hate workers

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Well Good Luck - My Best Hopes for you, with that @TAB

You Deserve a Job/ Work, where you feel Treated Well (Respectfully) - That brings in enough $$ to save for Holidays & Retirement.

Instead of not even enough $$ to pay the basic bills - my work situation, for the past few years...

Adge

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Thanks @Adge you deserve that too. been through cycle of shelling out tens of thousands every year in rent, walking away from jobs, going back and walking away, got told how to siphon most of super out(by super company) still waiting for follow up info. well thats only because am at age eligible for Transition to Retirement ie can get part payout every fortnight once set up, I went into it blind, but they rang me asking if I was happy with it, said not really, they offered options, am trying to follow that up now. at least could end up with house deposit by draining super guess. I have been earning money plus did alright from covid payments, am happy to go back to non covid dole(i kept registered) but then will be digging into savings again. anyhoo .. I dont even own a pair of jeans or runners atm lol got used to wearing workpants and trackpants and thongs ha ha

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@Adge

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Very Good Self-Care List @TAB

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👍 @Adge

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Thank you @Former-Member @TAB


Very wise words. Today I felt somewhat disappointed in myself. I was too drunk at a friends. I feel somewhat depressed now. But very true, it's one foot in front of the other. I don't know how to get off the roller coaster sometimes.

We will be away camping over next few days. I'm not sure if I'm looking forward to this. But I'll give it my best shot mixing with others I know less well.
Hope you are both well. ❤️

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Stuff happens @Former-Member why do you always have to fit in around others then go on trial for preceived behaviour? take it easy

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Hi @Adge - everything comes to a grinding Holt over Christmas new year, it's not personal
$25hr sounds about right. For cleaning. Hard on the body & not much pop interaction. Do you wanna clean? If you study. Community Support Work or disability, you need to stick with this kind of work i reckon. My friends here get paid $32hr for private 1:1 community care. $80hr on Sunday, so she says, re NDIS client, how is that viable long term???
Feel for you. They pensioned meboff and the longer you're away, the more ya confidence drops.
Wait 'till Chrissy February,vyoull find something then. Sorry 💙💚💙💚💙💚

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